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Choose Respect

It’s Anti-Bullying Week this week. Workplace bullies generally pick on those with status below or equivalent to themselves. And just because you are senior doesn’t mean you’re immune.

So we thought we’d share with you some fast tips on how to deal with workplace bullies.

How do you deal with people who try to squash your status and confidence? The kind of people who try to make you feel insignificant, junior or unimportant. Let’s face it, they do exist.

Here are 5 physical tips to remember:

  1. Bear in mind that people who behave this way are often insecure. Genuinely confident, high status people do not need to put other people down. Quite the opposite. Feel sorry for them.
  2. Check that the ‘confidence and status level’ you are communicating is high enough. Do a body and attitude check. Are you behaving like someone who expects to be picked on? Bullies smell fear.
  3. Come in with high confidence and status and stay there despite what the ‘status squasher’ tries. Just stay relaxed and avoid the temptation to try too hard or to justify yourself. Bullies prey on your desire to fit in, be perfect, be liked etc.
  4. Keep your eye contact strong, maintain an open body language, stay engaged and interested in the meeting and put your point of view clearly. Don’t rush, do use pauses and questions and make sure your voice doesn’t become high or breathless. Wear clothes that communicate your seniority and influence.
  5. Be prepared. Go in knowing your facts and knowing what you want to communicate. If you don’t know the answer to questions, don’t bull****; say you don’t know and you’ll find out.

Find out more about KineticFuture’s executive presence courses and one to one coaching. And why we have a 100% repeat assignment rate.

Find out more about the Anti-Bullying Alliance who organise the Anti-Bullying week ‘Choose Respect’ here.

Stressed Presenting?

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As today is International Stress Awareness Day, it’s good to know that you can, at least, reduce your presentation stress quickly and boost your executive presence in the process. It is absolutely possible. On our new Presenting with Executive Presence Group Course you learn how to tackle the gremlins that hold you back and have fun in the process. You can do it!

We’re off to the Wellbeing at Work conference on Thursday – I’m looking forward to hearing the latest research and implications for leadership.

Presentation Stress is really common. Even CEOs, film stars and professional comedians suffer. And we present so often – talking with colleagues, meetings, video as well as the formal stand ups. You need to tackle it not just because life is too short but because it does affect your executive presence and career.

Top Tip

Ask yourself “what am I assuming that’s causing me to be stressed when I present?”

Make a big long list, however daft you think those thoughts are. Then you’ll see the gremlins (hence the picture!) at work in your brain and writing it down starts to reduce their power.

On our presenting with executive presence courses, we find that the leading drivers for stress are imposter syndrome – people worry about being ‘found out’, a bad previous experience and the ‘boss’ being in the room and feeling judged.

We find a mixture of physical work and rethinking tools make a fast impact on stress. Learning to analyse the situation and create a good narrative with our easy toolkit will also boost your confidence.

We’ve blended the latest brain research, psychology and theatre direction tools to make this course something we’re very proud to share.

Drop us an email or give us a ring if you want to talk about coaching which adds Rocket Fuel For Your Talent (and chases away those nasty gremlins!)

 

Happy Halloween!

Happy Halloween! Today’s book club recommendation helps you overcome fears and boost your resilience. There are no remedies for ghouls in your garden, but great tips you can apply to work and home. We like them so much we’ve incorporated them in our executive presence, presenting and resilience courses. Enjoy!

Today’s book ‘The Resilience Factor’ is recommended by our colleague Jan Stannard, Positive Leadership, who is a top resilience coach. Jan trained with the author Karen Reivich, PhD and her colleague Martin Seligman as part of her work with Wellington College. The book is based on strong research from psychology and neuroscience. Critically, it’s very practical for work and home. With “7 keys to finding your inner strength and overcoming life’s hurdles”.

Buy ‘The Resilience Factor’ on Amazon.

Have a look and let us know what works for you.

On our Executive Presence course you’ll learn to balance warmth and authority at work, how to be open and show vulnerability yet have people know you mean business. And how to do all this your own way, in your own style with your own values. It’s a tightrope worth walking. Contact us on +44 (0)1628 624312 to find out more.

Do let us know your favourite books so that we can add them to the KineticFuture book club reading list.

By the way, you can easily find all our book club recommendations by just searching for ‘book club’ in our tips.

 

New Executive Presence Courses Launched

You can learn a lot about confidence and self-belief when you’re stuck up a mountain with just a pair of skis. I have transferred innovative psychological ideas from ski coaching to our new KineticFuture Executive Presence group courses. Here’s me looking very proud of myself on the slopes with a good friend.

We’re excited to launch our new Executive Presence courses – offering more personal coaching, new energising simulations, and even better results.

You can Learn how to use Executive Presence in presentations, meetings and tough conversations. In your own unique style. Using the latest global research and KineticFuture’s own deep expertise.

Everyone can achieve Executive Presence with good coaching and hard work.

YOU CAN DISCOVER HOW TO:

  •  Build your standing and impact with leaders and teams
  • Communicate with confidence and grace under fire
  • Balance warmth, authority and gravitas
  • Connect to people and inspire quickly
  • Use your power to thrive and support others
  • Show your decisiveness and ‘teeth’ when needed
  • Enhance your reputation and standing
  • Communicate your vision with charisma
  • Say no in 100 ways

Find out why companies like Novartis, Abbvie, Mars, Reckitt Benckiser, GSK and Barclays choose KineticFuture for executive presence courses and one to one coaching.  And why we have a 100% repeat assignment rate.

 Check out snoworks.co.uk to improve your skiing.

KineticFuture Book Club – You Don’t Want to Hear This

Welcome back to the KineticFuture Book Club!

This is a fantastic book that I will be recommending again and again on our new Executive Presence group course and in my one to one coaching. For me, its key message is be open and be yourself and you will boost your executive presence.

It comes from vulnerability researcher, Brené Brown and it’s called ‘Daring Greatly’.  I read it cover to cover without stopping. And then started reading it again. Only stopped by accidently smashing my iPad!

This book could have been written about me and for me. Judging by the millions of people that follow Brené on Ted, many men and women feel the same way.

In essence, it’s about daring to be yourself, not hiding and using strategies to help you stay courageous under fire. It’s about being more successful and happier. The way she tells the story is moving and hilarious. She struggles on the journey too. Her research work is exemplary. There’s no BS here. This is a book for men, women, the relentlessly ambitious and those already happy with their life today.

Buy Daring Greatly by Brené Brown on Amazon.

On our Executive Presence course you’ll learn to balance warmth and authority at work, how to be open and show vulnerability yet have people know you mean business. And how to do all this your own way, in your own style with your own values. It’s a tightrope worth walking. Contact us on +44 (0)1628 624312 to find out more.

Do let us know your favourite books so that we can add them to the KineticFuture book club reading list.

By the way, you can easily find all our book club recommendations by just searching for ‘book club’ in our tips.