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Female Leader With Executive Presence

Women Leaders Mustn't Sacrifice Authenticity

Many women leaders don’t fulfil their leadership potential, thinking they must trade their authenticity for executive presence and gravitas. Not true. In fact, you’ll only be successful if you develop your EP in your own authentic way. 

Remember what got you here, won’t necessarily get you there. Get your Executive Presence right and you’ll secure those leadership promotions, be accepted by your peers, influence senior leaders and achieve great work with your team.

As a specialist coach in EP and gravitas , my starting point is your values. The global EP research provides us with a useful framework, but you need to do it your way.  It’s the same for men. And it’s about encouraging diversity.

Below are some common mistakes which will stop you igniting your own leadership talent.

If you would like leadership or EP coaching one to one or as a team, do get in contact soon for a chat. You can apply it to your daily leadership, meetings & presentations.   Here are common EP mistakes.

  1. Not developing your own executive presence – it’s the water leaders swim in every day. Fellow leaders expect it. 
  2. Thinking this is just about ego power plays – it’s about getting great work done, solving problems and developing others
  3. Behaving like an old-style male leader – that’s a disaster, find your own path to maximise the benefits of your diversity
  4. Not realising how good you are, imposter syndrome or holding back until you are perfect (you’ll wait forever!)
  5. Expecting the world to adapt to your expectations rather than working with what is real today – you’ll need clever strategies, understanding of human dynamics (yes, politics too), resilience and the ability to read your own organisation 

KineticFuture can coach you to be a world-class communicator and leader. Coaching 1-2-1 and in groups. Clients include Abbvie, Amgen, Gilead, GSK, Novartis, Mars, Pladis, WPP and Barclays. We have six main areas of work: Time to Think™ coachingexecutive presencepresenting and storytellingtricky conversationsresilience and communicating purpose.

I Lead But I'm Not The Expert

I coach many leaders of technical teams with complex topics.   If the ‘am I technical enough?’ worry is on your mind and it’s holding you back, I hope these tips help.  It’s a common concern and one that’s really worth thinking about.  Call me if you would like to talk about how leadership or communications coaching can propel your confidence and impact to the next level. 

Some people are already experts and are learning to lead and communicate well.  Others are strong leaders but lack all the technical expertise & knowledge they think they need.   With everything in between.  This ‘expert’ concern can hold back both groups from leading confidently, presenting well and ultimately impacts on results.  So how do you tackle it?  

The main point is to gain some perspective on the reality of the situation and then actively shape how you personally want to tackle the job.  Here are some tips that help you work out how.

  • Get Perspective & A Reality Check
  • What is your role today, what are the expectations from your company?
  • What do you offer, why are you the leader?  
  • What Must You Know?
  • Normally, there is technical or structural knowledge you must have to operate. However, it’s unrealistic to think you can be as expert as the ‘deep’ operational experts in your team in every area. You are the leader of the team now and that is different. 
  • Ask yourself what must you know, what do you know, where are your gaps? Does it matter?

What Next? 

  • How will you position your role so that you are not expected to be an expert in all areas? 
  • How will you fill gaps you need to fill?
  • How will you handle meetings, presentations and advising the team?  
  • Can you take a chair role, helping your expert team to shine, asking strong questions?

Hot Questions for your Personal Growth, man looking at plan.

Hot Questions for your Personal Growth

Now is the time of year when you get to work out your 2020 personal development plan – for work and for home. To kick off your thinking, I have two very powerful questions to help you on your way.

And if part of your plan is to have 1-2-1 executive coaching, please do ask me about Time to Think™ Coaching. It’s different, highly effective and enjoyable.

Every decision you make, every evolution, every new breakthrough idea depends on the quality of your own independent thinking. Yet, how often are we invited to think for ourselves, to the edge of our thinking?

We interrupt each other every 11 seconds. We follow the crowd. We are drowned out in meetings. We are told what to think and do. We’re not even sure we can think this well. What a waste.

Last week, I had a fantastic couple of PD days with my fellow Time To Think™ coaches and received some great coaching myself. I was invited to think, with a promise of no interruption, about two questions.

  1. What is a challenging step you want to take in your life right now that you’re not taking?

  2. What do you assume about yourself most of the time that is most stopping you from having a better life? (or for better life substitute health/relationship/promotion/activity or anything else you want to think about)

I hope this gets you thinking and building your plan.

KineticFuture can coach you to be a world-class communicator and leader. Coaching 1-2-1 and in groups. Clients include Abbvie, Amgen, Gilead, GSK, Novartis, Mars, Pladis, WPP and Barclays. We have six main areas of work: Time to Think™ coachingexecutive presencepresenting and storytellingtricky conversationsresilience and communicating purpose.

presentation training, ski person

Tackle Your Presentation Nerves

When I learned to ski as an adult I felt physically sick even getting in the lift to the slopes. I also had my one and only cigarette on a ski slope when I just couldn’t move for fear.  And this all happened on my honeymoon!

So, when it comes to presentation nerves, I totally get it and I have constantly hunted down strategies that can make a big difference.   For many people, presenting is not as bad as my skiing experience. In fact, very often, they are great presenters with tremendous executive presence.   But the impact nerves make on their energy and time is just not acceptable.  Life really is too short and work too busy.

If you’d like to be coached on how to take back control of those nerves and save time and angst, do give me a ring.  There will be a solution that suits you.  (And by the way, I now tackle off-piste ski runs using many of these same strategies!)

See below for some quick tips to try now. Coaching will help you create a routine and a mindset that you can use every time to get you through. 

  1. Divert the pain – put small pieces of grit in the front of your shoes and squeeze your toes when you walk up to present.  This will divert your attention and keep your weight moving forward.
  2. Divert the thinking – how else could you see this? Is your CEO more under pressure than you are?  Are you really there to help – so get over yourself, it’s not about you? (my personal favourite).  Are you even sure what is really winding you up – write it down and ask if that is  really true or how true it is and what is your evidence?
  3. Bore yourself senseless – practice in a boring voice out loud on a bed in front of the mirror, talking to objects around the room.  Do it a few times.  
  4. Make it easy and just a bit boring – ask yourself what is easy for you, before the nerves kick in, then practice in situations which are easy or just a tad more difficult. 
  5. Don’t Give A ****!   Just make a decision to do it and not care.  Go in pretending to yourself that you’ve already got a top new job or won a million dollars.  You’ve nothing to lose.

KineticFuture can coach you to be a world-class communicator and leader. Coaching 1-2-1 and in groups. Clients include Abbvie, Amgen, Gilead, GSK, Novartis, Mars, Pladis, WPP and Barclays. We have six main areas of work: Time to Think™ coachingexecutive presencepresenting and storytellingtricky conversationsresilience and communicating purpose.

innovation starts with great thinking

Innovation Starts With Great Thinking

Innovation is the life-blood of organisational survival. We need the big break-throughs and we need the small brilliant solutions to day to day problems. Innovation comes from surprising places.

So why don’t we take the time to think brilliantly and independently? Why do quiet experts find it hard to be heard in meetings? Why do people listen to interrupt rather than to understand? Why are meetings a competitive sport? Why do managers rush to give solutions rather than encourage us to think for ourselves? All these common behaviours waste talent, potential and money.

If you can create & use a Thinking Environment™ and encourage independent thinking you will save time and dramatically improve both your innovation potential and levels of team engagement. It will also help you talk to your loved ones!

We are running our first open programme in January teaching leaders & managers how to build these skills. If you’d like to know more about this, give me a ring on karen@kineticfuture.com .
You can also read the seminal book on this topic by Nancy Kline called More Time To Think.

KineticFuture can coach you to be a world-class communicator and leader. Coaching 1-2-1 and in groups. Clients include Abbvie, Amgen, Gilead, GSK, Novartis, Mars, Pladis, WPP and Barclays. We have six main areas of work: Time to Think™ coachingexecutive presencepresenting and storytellingtricky conversationsresilience and communicating purpose.