Calling All Library Lovers

I have a spring in my step, it must be the milder weather, plus the fact that I recently graduated as a Time to Think Coach after a year of hard slog, hooray!

I qualified as a business coach eight years ago, but this has transformed the results I achieve. It was pioneered by Nancy Kline (Founder & President of The Time to Think Organisation), whom I was lucky enough to meet at my graduation day (cheesy photo below!) Nancy is also the author of this week’s book club recommendation, ‘More Time to Think’.

Left to right: Ruth McCarthy (my Time to Think coach), me, Nancy Kline (Founder & President of The Time to Think Organisation)

Thinking Partnership coaching will be relevant to team members you want to coach 1-2-1, perhaps thinking about a new role, business relationship or their executive presence. And of course, we incorporate elements of this type of coaching into all our group communications courses.

Find out more about ‘Thinking Partnership’ coaching here.

Drop us an email if you’d like a quick chat about how I can help you with your own challenges.

More Time to Think by Nancy Kline

Amazon says:

“The quality of everything we do depends on the quality of the thinking we do first. The leaders, professionals, parents and teachers who understand this are at the top of their fields and inspire some of the finest independent thinking in their environments.

In More Time to Think, Nancy Kline shares ten effective ways to help people think for themselves with rigour, imagination, courage and grace. From learning that the mind works best in the presence of a question (so never be afraid to risk being wrong) and that a key factor in the quality of a person’s thinking is how they are treated by the people with them while they are thinking, to the importance of appreciation and of facing what you have been denying, Nancy Kline shows how to create a successful Thinking Environment, whether for two people or a larger group.”

Buy Nancy’s book ‘More Time to Think’ on Amazon.

We like to be topical here at KineticFuture. So, did you know February is library lovers’ month?

Here are some of our favourite quotes on libraries:

“If you have a garden and a library, you have everything” – Marcus Tullius Cicero

“If you want to get laid, go to college. If you want an education, go to the library” – Frank Zappa

“A library is the delivery room for the birth of ideas, a place where history comes to life” – Norman Cousins

“I have always imagined that paradise will be a kind of library” – Jorge Luis Borges

KineticFuture specialises in coaching leaders to be highly skilful communicators. Coaching 1-2-1 and in groups. Clients include Abbvie, Amgen, Gilead, GSK, Novartis, Mars, Pladis, WPP and Barclays. We have six main areas of work: – Thinking partnership coachingexecutive presencepresenting and storytelling, tricky conversations, resilience and communicating purpose. Contact us to find out more.

Unspoken Truths of Promotion

If you want to secure that top job, you must understand that the rules of the game are totally different. It’s like a switch has been thrown. At the senior levels there are unspoken truths which will block you or help you win that senior role. Are you ready to play in a very different sandpit? That’s what we coach on our executive presence courses.

These unspoken truths of promotion are infuriating but easy to unravel. You need to take a big gulp, decide whether you’re prepared to play the game and work on your strategy. Fear not, you do not need to lose your authenticity but you will need much more insight, personal flexibility and savvy.

You may hear phrases like “She just doesn’t seem to be (name senior job) material” or “I’m not sure if he’s really got what it takes for us”. Behind closed doors at senior levels, it’s these ‘gut feel’ type comments that really drive whether you are invited into the senior level roles. Vague yes. Unfair yes. Not a fair process. True. But this is the reality when you strip it right back.

The reason is pretty clear. At the senior levels it’s a tough billet. Colleagues expect a lot from each other and often they play rough behind closed doors. They need to know you can hack it. They want to know you’ll thrive with minimum support. And now expectations of you are very different. You are representing the company brand as well as your own. 

So your job is to work out the unspoken truths in your culture, your own company. Then decide how you want to play the game. What really matters? What do you need to demonstrate by how you behave and how you communicate? And to whom? And yes, it is a game but one which will help you achieve great things for yourself and your team.

Global Executive Presence research clarifies overall key leadership behaviours such as being able to ‘show your teeth’ and integrity. Being clear on your own values, strengths and how to play to your differences will also help. Our coaching and planning tools will ensure you can think all this through and handle things in your own way. Then we’ll coach you on your practical communication across meetings, presentations, tough conversations or in social situations so you can send a consistent message, physically and by what you say when. Have a look at immediate easy executive presence tips now and pass them on.

I appreciate that my honesty may be uncomfortable for some people, but it reflects my own real-life experience past and present working at the top. Read my biography here. These unspoken truths exist so let’s be frank. And anyone can learn how to develop and use their executive presence at work. It is absolutely possible with a good coach behind you.

KineticFuture specialises in coaching leaders to be highly skilful communicators. Coaching 1-2-1 and in groups. Clients include Abbvie, Amgen, Gilead, GSK, Novartis, Mars, Pladis, WPP and Barclays. They have six main areas of work: – Thinking partnership coaching, executive presence, presenting and storytelling, tricky conversations, resilience and communicating purposeContact us to find out more.

Can Executive Presence be Learned?

If ‘develop stronger executive presence’ is on your 2019 development plans, be optimistic!  It definitely can be learned quickly with us.  It’s just about being true to your own values and understanding the behaviours other leaders expect to see from peers.

The bottom line is that you get to choose to be flexible in each situation or not.  It’s that simple.  Once you decide to go for it, we know our Executive Presence group course will get you to your goals, in your own authentic way.

Drop us an email to find out how you can learn to do this practically in your own real work.  karenmoyse@kineticfuture.com

Top Tips for Executive Presence (And what it’s not)

  • Executive Presence effective behaviours have been defined by strong global research.  It’s not fluff.
  • It’s about balancing warmth and authority.  It’s not about old-fashioned power plays.
  • It’s about integrity, ‘showing teeth’ and demonstrating expertise.  It’s not superficial.
  • It’s about getting good work done and empowering teams.  It’s not about being the loudest.
  • It’s about communicating in a flexible, skilled way, suited to a leader not a junior.

KineticFuture has deep expertise in coaching leaders to be highly skilful communicators – on our team courses or 1-2-1 coaching. We work with some of the most exciting companies in the world and have a repeat assignment rate of 100%. We’d love to talk to you.

KineticFuture Book Club – Taming Tigers

Hang on to those New Year’s resolutions with today’s book club recommendation – ‘Taming Tigers. Do things you never thought you could’ by Jim Lawless. Like join an amateur dramatic group (me!), go for that new job role, or overcome a fear?

Kinetic Future’s coaching and group courses will also give you the boost you need to get there – by increasing confidence, resilience, executive presence or presenting skills.

Taming Tigers was recommended to the KineticFuture book club by Colin Boylan, Director at Fresh Perspectives Market Research, thanks Colin!

Colin says:

“Excellent story and fantastic advice. Really helped drive me forward when I was setting up the business.”

Amazon says:

Everybody has a Tiger. It is the thing that snarls at us when we think about making a change in our lives and stops us developing and achieving our potential. In Taming Tigers Jim Lawless shares his proven and inspirational training programme to help you achieve your dreams by taming the Tigers in your life.
Now for the first time, you can learn how to use these highly practical rules to overcome your fears and do things you never thought you could – in both your professional and private life.

Buy ‘Taming Tigers’ on Amazon.

Drop us an email or give us a ring on +44 (0) 1628 624312 if you want to talk about coaching which adds Rocket Fuel For Your Talent (and helps you tame those tigers).

The KineticFuture Book Club is focussed on communications and leadership, our specialist area of coaching. To find more recommendations just search for ‘book club’ in our tips.

Choose Respect

It’s Anti-Bullying Week this week. Workplace bullies generally pick on those with status below or equivalent to themselves. And just because you are senior doesn’t mean you’re immune.

So we thought we’d share with you some fast tips on how to deal with workplace bullies.

How do you deal with people who try to squash your status and confidence? The kind of people who try to make you feel insignificant, junior or unimportant. Let’s face it, they do exist.

Here are 5 physical tips to remember:

  1. Bear in mind that people who behave this way are often insecure. Genuinely confident, high status people do not need to put other people down. Quite the opposite. Feel sorry for them.
  2. Check that the ‘confidence and status level’ you are communicating is high enough. Do a body and attitude check. Are you behaving like someone who expects to be picked on? Bullies smell fear.
  3. Come in with high confidence and status and stay there despite what the ‘status squasher’ tries. Just stay relaxed and avoid the temptation to try too hard or to justify yourself. Bullies prey on your desire to fit in, be perfect, be liked etc.
  4. Keep your eye contact strong, maintain an open body language, stay engaged and interested in the meeting and put your point of view clearly. Don’t rush, do use pauses and questions and make sure your voice doesn’t become high or breathless. Wear clothes that communicate your seniority and influence.
  5. Be prepared. Go in knowing your facts and knowing what you want to communicate. If you don’t know the answer to questions, don’t bull****; say you don’t know and you’ll find out.

Find out more about KineticFuture’s executive presence courses and one to one coaching. And why we have a 100% repeat assignment rate.

Find out more about the Anti-Bullying Alliance who organise the Anti-Bullying week ‘Choose Respect’ here.