Unspoken Truths of Promotion

If you want to secure that top job, you must understand that the rules of the game are totally different. It’s like a switch has been thrown. At the senior levels there are unspoken truths which will block you or help you win that senior role. Are you ready to play in a very different sandpit? That’s what we coach on our executive presence courses.

These unspoken truths of promotion are infuriating but easy to unravel. You need to take a big gulp, decide whether you’re prepared to play the game and work on your strategy. Fear not, you do not need to lose your authenticity but you will need much more insight, personal flexibility and savvy.

You may hear phrases like “She just doesn’t seem to be (name senior job) material” or “I’m not sure if he’s really got what it takes for us”. Behind closed doors at senior levels, it’s these ‘gut feel’ type comments that really drive whether you are invited into the senior level roles. Vague yes. Unfair yes. Not a fair process. True. But this is the reality when you strip it right back.

The reason is pretty clear. At the senior levels it’s a tough billet. Colleagues expect a lot from each other and often they play rough behind closed doors. They need to know you can hack it. They want to know you’ll thrive with minimum support. And now expectations of you are very different. You are representing the company brand as well as your own. 

So your job is to work out the unspoken truths in your culture, your own company. Then decide how you want to play the game. What really matters? What do you need to demonstrate by how you behave and how you communicate? And to whom? And yes, it is a game but one which will help you achieve great things for yourself and your team.

Global Executive Presence research clarifies overall key leadership behaviours such as being able to ‘show your teeth’ and integrity. Being clear on your own values, strengths and how to play to your differences will also help. Our coaching and planning tools will ensure you can think all this through and handle things in your own way. Then we’ll coach you on your practical communication across meetings, presentations, tough conversations or in social situations so you can send a consistent message, physically and by what you say when. Have a look at immediate easy executive presence tips now and pass them on.

I appreciate that my honesty may be uncomfortable for some people, but it reflects my own real-life experience past and present working at the top. Read my biography here. These unspoken truths exist so let’s be frank. And anyone can learn how to develop and use their executive presence at work. It is absolutely possible with a good coach behind you.

KineticFuture specialises in coaching leaders to be highly skilful communicators. Coaching 1-2-1 and in groups. Clients include Abbvie, Amgen, Gilead, GSK, Novartis, Mars, Pladis, WPP and Barclays. They have six main areas of work: – Thinking partnership coaching, executive presence, presenting and storytelling, tricky conversations, resilience and communicating purposeContact us to find out more.

Can Executive Presence be Learned?

If ‘develop stronger executive presence’ is on your 2019 development plans, be optimistic!  It definitely can be learned quickly with us.  It’s just about being true to your own values and understanding the behaviours other leaders expect to see from peers.

The bottom line is that you get to choose to be flexible in each situation or not.  It’s that simple.  Once you decide to go for it, we know our Executive Presence group course will get you to your goals, in your own authentic way.

Drop us an email to find out how you can learn to do this practically in your own real work.  karenmoyse@kineticfuture.com

Top Tips for Executive Presence (And what it’s not)

  • Executive Presence effective behaviours have been defined by strong global research.  It’s not fluff.
  • It’s about balancing warmth and authority.  It’s not about old-fashioned power plays.
  • It’s about integrity, ‘showing teeth’ and demonstrating expertise.  It’s not superficial.
  • It’s about getting good work done and empowering teams.  It’s not about being the loudest.
  • It’s about communicating in a flexible, skilled way, suited to a leader not a junior.

KineticFuture has deep expertise in coaching leaders to be highly skilful communicators – on our team courses or 1-2-1 coaching. We work with some of the most exciting companies in the world and have a repeat assignment rate of 100%. We’d love to talk to you.

KineticFuture Book Club – Taming Tigers

Hang on to those New Year’s resolutions with today’s book club recommendation – ‘Taming Tigers. Do things you never thought you could’ by Jim Lawless. Like join an amateur dramatic group (me!), go for that new job role, or overcome a fear?

Kinetic Future’s coaching and group courses will also give you the boost you need to get there – by increasing confidence, resilience, executive presence or presenting skills.

Taming Tigers was recommended to the KineticFuture book club by Colin Boylan, Director at Fresh Perspectives Market Research, thanks Colin!

Colin says:

“Excellent story and fantastic advice. Really helped drive me forward when I was setting up the business.”

Amazon says:

Everybody has a Tiger. It is the thing that snarls at us when we think about making a change in our lives and stops us developing and achieving our potential. In Taming Tigers Jim Lawless shares his proven and inspirational training programme to help you achieve your dreams by taming the Tigers in your life.
Now for the first time, you can learn how to use these highly practical rules to overcome your fears and do things you never thought you could – in both your professional and private life.

Buy ‘Taming Tigers’ on Amazon.

Drop us an email or give us a ring on +44 (0) 1628 624312 if you want to talk about coaching which adds Rocket Fuel For Your Talent (and helps you tame those tigers).

The KineticFuture Book Club is focussed on communications and leadership, our specialist area of coaching. To find more recommendations just search for ‘book club’ in our tips.

Ditch Your Imposter Syndrome

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Happy New Year to you. Today I’m thinking about imposter syndrome – when you’re afraid you’re going to be found out. AAAh! Even Richard Madden, The Bodyguard, winning his Golden Globe this week confessed he’s felt like this all his career. Many business leaders I coach tell me they feel just the same.

So why not ditch this stinking thinking for 2019?

Hot news is… I qualified as a Time To Think business coach yesterday!

I love this powerful approach which achieves extraordinary results fast. I can help you discover a whole new way of thinking about business and yourself. And, of course, this includes ditching that imposter syndrome.

Call me and we’ll tackle it together (find out more here).

Imposter Syndrome Top Tip

Ask yourself:

“What could you assume instead (about yourself) in this situation that would be credible, liberating and genuinely true to you?”

For example, my own new assumption would be that:

“I’ve deep expertise in my field and even if I operated at just 20% of my ability, it would make a huge impact”.

Embarrassing to say out loud but helpful when I need to be brave! You’ll have your own.

Have a wonderful weekend. And call me if you’d like to know more about my Thinking Partnership Coaching – one to one or in groups.

Thrive this Christmas!

It’s less than a week until Christmas and we really hope you’re starting to wind down and look forward to taking time out to be with friends and family.

We recently asked for book recommendations that were the secret of your success – thank you so much to everyone that replied.

This week’s book was recommended to us by Sarah Mieszkian from Button, Business Marketing & Admin Support.

Arianna Huffington, the co-founder and editor in chief of the Huffington Post has written a passionate call to arms in her book ‘Thrive’, looking to redefine what it means to be successful in today’s world.

Sarah says:

The book that has had an impact on me is ‘Thrive’ by Arianna Huffington. Arianna was one of the first high powered women to come out and say “enough is enough” and you don’t have to work all hours to be successful. Taking time out for you is just as important. It has become the normal narrative today but when I read this several years ago it was certainly an eye raiser.

‘Thrive’ has great reviews on Amazon:

Drawing on the latest groundbreaking research and scientific findings in the fields of psychology, sports, sleep and physiology that show the profound and transformative effects of meditation, mindfulness, unplugging and giving, Arianna shows us the way to a revolution in our culture, our thinking, our workplaces, and our lives.

Wishing you a very merry Christmas from KineticFuture! Look out for more KineticFuture bookclub recommendations in 2019.

In the meantime, drop us an email or give us a ring in the new year if you would like to talk about coaching which will help you thrive not just survive, we’d love to work with you.