Star Wars Tip. Manage Your Tell 4

Your focus really does determine your reality. How you think about a situation will promote or prevent your executive presence and gravitas. This vlog gives examples and top coaching tips on how to manage your own mindset.

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I hope it’s useful.  Let us know how you get on.

If you’d like us to coach you or your team do give us a ring.  It would be a pleasure to discuss what you are looking for.

Frustration Buster Part 5 – Why aren’t I more confident?

Even the most successful people in business lack confidence sometimes. They are just better at dealing with the situation.

So here are 7 Quick Confidence Boosters you can apply to meetings, presentations or just to help you rise to a new challenge.

  1. Remind yourself what you offer the other people. Why were you chosen for this job? Write it down and think of specific proof points. Now is the time to get over yourself and start helping others.
  2. Talk to others as a human to human. Stop trying to be impressive. It’s ease which gives you the presence and status. It’s also a truly liberating approach (even the Dalai Lama uses this one!)
  3. Connect to your purpose or what’s important to you. When you do this you will be an authentic and powerful communicator. People will know you are genuine and more likely to support you. Focus on your ‘why’.
  4. Breathe – in and out naturally.
  5. Prepare solidly – accept the worst case scenario, don’t fight it or dwell on it but do have a plan. Focus on the opportunity.
  6. Dump the PowerPoint slides if you can – instead have a two way conversation.
  7. I would say this wouldn’t I! But if you have real confidence challenges, organise some 1-2-1 coaching. It makes a massive difference.

I hope this helps. See more blogs and vlogs at www.kineticfuture.com/tips/

KineticFuture offers executive coaching and communications coaching. We specialise in helping leaders ignite their people around purpose. Contact us on +44 (0)1628 624312 to find out more.

Soft Eyes. Manage Your Tell 3

Your eyes really  are the gateway to your soul.  And it’s one of the first things to go when we’re under pressure. Here’s a top tip that will give you the warm authority leaders need even when the going gets tough. Click here to watch.

I hope it’s useful.  Let us know how you get on.  If you’d like us to coach you or your team to increase your presence, gravitas or warm authority do give us a ring.  It would be a pleasure to work with you on this.

Frustration Buster Part 4 – I Just Don’t Get Them!

Have you tried the ‘empty chair technique’?   It’s a great way to find a new perspective and new ways to solve a problem.  Particularly if you’ve tried other ideas and the other person is still driving you bonkers.

Let’s say you have a customer or a client who is being uncooperative or even rude to you or your team. Alternatively, you might need to sell your 2018 programme and budget to your boss but worry about their objections.

The idea behind the ‘empty chair’ technique, which originates from Fritz Perls of the Gestalt school, is that physically altering your point of view and seeing things from a different angle can bring useful insights. This insight helps you change your behaviour to achieve a better outcome.

I really enjoy using it in my one to one coaching.  You can also use it with a colleague taking notes or even on your own.

  • Set up two empty chairs
  • Put yourself in one of the chairs and imagine that the empty chair is occupied by the other person in the relationship.
  • The question is “As x (yourself or the other person), how do you feel about x?
  • You describe what you think and feel about the imaginary person in the other chair and or the situation.
  • You then change chairs and think about yourself ‘being’ the other person, this time looking at an imagined version of yourself.  Ask the same question.

What’s so interesting is that often we have a very good understanding of the other person but the exercises surface knowledge we’ve often ignored. It also releases a great deal of pent up emotion about a relationship which allows you to think more clearly and find new ways of handling the situation.

Please do contact us if you or a colleague would be interested in one to one business coaching. We can talk through what you are looking for and how we work with our clients. Email me at: Karen@kineticfuture.com.

 

Be Big. Manage Your Tell 2

Image of Euro Hockey player Maddie Hinch sourced from Flickr & cropped for use.

Here’s the second in our ‘managing your tell’ vlog series. Very relevant as we are all in planning negotiations at this time of year. With solutions to one of the most common ‘tells’ we coach.  Click here to watch.

Let us know how you get on.

To receive high quality coaching on HOW to develop your own executive presence and gravitas for your own situation do give us a ring. We develop practical programmes to suit you.

Email karenmoyse@kineticfuture.com or call us on +44 (0) 1628 621312.

Watch part 1 of this vlog series here.