3 Weird Confidence Cheats

No matter how senior or expert we are, there’s something (or someone!) that makes us twitch. We curated a ‘collection’ of 50 quick confidence boosts. Here’s 3 of the weird ones to try. If you’d like leadership coaching 1-2-1 or communications coaching for meetings and presentations give us a call.

Remember, weird is good!

  1. Feel the pain – divert attention from your fear by putting tiny pieces of gravel in the front of your shoes. Scrunch your toes from time to time.
  2. Secret escapes – choose a secret to take into the room with you, how will you behave now? E.g. The secret is you are a spy or about to be made CEO.
  3. What if? – imagine you are talking to Man City FC owners in the bar after winning the League. How will you now stand, and talk and be? Go in with that purpose.

KineticFuture can coach you to be a world-class leader and communicator. Coaching 1-2-1 and in groups. Clients include Abbvie, Amgen, Gilead, GSK, Novartis, Mars, Pladis, WPP and Barclays.

We have six main areas of work: Time to think coachingexecutive presencepresenting and storytellingtricky conversationsresilience and communicating purpose.

Do Fear Messages Really Work?

We were debating this question at a presentation workshop I ran last week. It’s an important issue whether you are Extinction Rebellion or you are talking about a tough issue with your team or customers. The answer is surprising.

The answer is yes and no.

Fear works well to gain attention. The Extinction Rebellion rallies really make me sit up. They create great stories to tell.

But if you want people to act you need to move sharply into action-oriented messages, or they will switch off. If we are bombarded with just negativity, it all becomes too difficult and too overwhelming, so we talk a lot, but we do nothing.

It’s also about setting out specific and easy first steps. First steps so we can see the reward. So, to stick with the environmental theme – the articles you see about ‘5 Things You Can Do Today’ are positive and helpful. (But they need to be told with more oomph!)

The interesting kicker on all this is that if what you are suggesting does not resonate with someone’s values, social norms or things that are important to them it won’t work. The coal industry in Australia has tried positive messaging but this has been very much received as spin soundbites. Gosh. Perhaps that means we do see through fake news? Now there’s a thought.

If you would like to tell your story to encourage awareness and to change behaviour or to build your confidence and executive presence for meetings, presentations or for difficult conversations, do contact us. We will help you build a powerful communications strategy and an engaging way of telling the story for the occasion as well as working with you on your vocal energy and physical presence.

I Think Too Much

Image by Gerd Altmann from Pixabay

Do you lie awake at three in the morning with annoying work thoughts whizzing around your head?

Ironically, the solution could be making more time to think productively during the day. Call us if you’d like to be coached in a Thinking Environment. You’ll find it exciting, transformative and that it delivers results quickly.

Simple Top Tip For Today

I found an old notebook yesterday which listed my own big work dilemmas that were whizzing around my head at the time. I was amazed to realise that they didn’t bother me now. This was a direct result of being coached myself in a Thinking Environment. But here’s a simple tip to access your best thinking right now working with a trusted colleague.

-Sit down with someone you trust in private, in a place which communicates you are valuable. Set aside 20 minutes.

-Agree with your partner who is the ‘thinking partner’ and who is the ‘coach’.

-Agree that the ‘coach’ will never ever interrupt or suggest solutions and will listen intently with warmth, ease, encouragement, non-judgement, genuine curiosity and 100% confidentiality (no compromises!) This is the thinking environment.

  • Get comfortable
  • The ‘coach’ asks, “what would you like to think about and what are your thoughts?”
  • The thinker thinks, pauses, thinks, speaks or doesn’t speak. They are thinking. The ‘coach’ has the privilege of seeing the agility of the brain at work.
  • The ‘coach’ maintains the thinking environment.
  • When they’ve finished thinking, the ‘thinker’ writes down any notes and you appreciate each other.

See what happens! It could be the best thinking you have done in a very long time.

If you would like to be coached by us in a Thinking Environment we’d love to talk.

KineticFuture can coach you to be a world-class leader and communicator. Coaching 1-2-1 and in groups. Clients include Abbvie, Amgen, Gilead, GSK, Novartis, Mars, Pladis, WPP and Barclays. We have six main areas of work: Time to think coachingexecutive presencepresenting and storytellingtricky conversationsresilience and communicating purpose.

What’s New On Your Reading List?

We launched the KineticFuture Book Club towards the end of last year – focused on communications and leadership, our specialist area of coaching. Thank you so much to all those who sent in their personal recommendations.

So far we have some really great books on our list, including the following (click to go to a short write up):

Would you mind sharing your latest personal favourites with us? It would be great to credit you or it can be anonymous if you prefer.

It could be a book that has helped you be successful at work, something that has amused you or kept you sane, or something that has some really interesting thinking or practical tips. The choice is yours.

Just email us the name of your book(s) and we’ll share it. We will also be sharing the reading list we give out on our different courses – Executive PresencePresentingResilience and Tricky Conversations.

Really look forward to your thoughts on this, thank you!

Pimp Up That Presentation Fast

There are some super-fast ways to take a presentation from bland (no one’s listening!) to brilliant (people engaged, influenced, believing, wanting to act).

How often have you been given a presentation written by and for someone else, with little time to change it? You know it’s dull but now it’s your reputation on the line as you’re delivering it, so you need to make changes fast.

Kineticfuture can coach you on simple effective ways to create and deliver a great presentation and build your executive presence – so find out about our group coaching courses. For now, here are some fast track tips you can use today for presentations, group meetings or Skype meetings. Even using just one tip will make a real difference.

I’d love to hear your own ways of tackling this last-minute challenge.

6 WAYS TO PIMP UP THAT PRESENTATION FAST

  1. Go back to basics quickly – who is the audience, has it changed, what’s your goal, what’s their goal and concerns, why are they there, what do they want from you? (You’d be amazed how often the brief changes or the initial brief was totally wrong. This stops you having a complete audience disconnect!)
  2. Take the water cooler test – what’s your one key message (one short sentence) and check it’s valuable for you and the audience. Make it surprising, something new, something important, a point of view, something that gets to the heart of the challenge or the solution. This is not a summary of the situation! (This key message is the hardest part but force yourself to commit and do not ‘go vanilla’ unless that’s your whole comms strategy).
  3. Add in a short story – it needs to be something that illustrates the challenge, the opportunity or results. Stories can be personal, need to be surprising, trigger emotions and illustrate the key message. Humour works but choose carefully. If you can include more than one story, please do.
  4. Turn the structure on its head – start with a story to illustrate the challenge or opportunity (slide 2- immediately after you say hello). Communicate the key message and what you want the audience to do (slide 3). Then go into the agenda which enables you to illustrate the key message (if the decision-maker has to dash off, this up-front approach can be a lifesaver).
  5. Build in audience interaction – this is a conversation remember, you’re not talking at people, so you’d naturally ask rhetorical questions, or get the audience to participate in any way you can. They will remember you and how you made them feel much more than the content.
  6. Improve the visuals – if you are not bound by legal approvals, you can add in simple slides with strong visuals that illustrate the point. You can also drop or move slides around. The idea is to make the presentation your own. And if worst comes to the worst, you can stand in the way of really ghastly slides and just talk to the audience or dump the slides entirely.

KineticFuture can coach you to be a world-class leader and communicator. Coaching 1-2-1 and in groups. Clients include Abbvie, Amgen, Gilead, GSK, Novartis, Mars, Pladis, WPP and Barclays. We have six main areas of work: Time to think coachingexecutive presencepresenting and storytellingtricky conversationsresilience and communicating purpose.

Contact us today to book a course or to find out more.