The three types of empathy are a hot topic in our age of co-creation. If your leaders, MSLs, marketeers or technical teams would like coaching in this area, do call us. It’s a fascinating subject.
Empathy researchers define empathy as:
‘The ability to sense others’ emotions coupled with the ability to imagine what someone else might be thinking or feeling’.
There is real depth in this area which can help you hone or even manage your empathy. You may be using too little or too much.
For certain, developing your E-awareness can help you with: matrix working, co-creation with the NHS or other groups, managing upwards or coping better with upsetting work situations.
Top Tip for Empathy
Listen to Understand
Genuinely be interested, want to understand their views.
Don’t ever interrupt the other person or just be waiting until you can dive in with your own point. Let them finish fully.
Show it by keeping your eyes on their eyes, using open and forward body language and exude ease not rush or competition.
KineticFuture specialises in leadership and communications coaching. Karen Moyse has been a coach for 8 years and a skills trainer for 20. She recently graduated as a TIME TO THINK coach specialising in the thinking environment. KineticFuture courses include Executive Presence, Presentations and Thinking Partnership coaching for individuals and teams.
I have a spring in my step, it must be the milder weather,
plus the fact that I recently graduated as a Time to Think Coach after a
year of hard slog, hooray!
I qualified as a business coach eight years ago, but this has transformed the results I achieve. It was pioneered by Nancy Kline (Founder & President of The Time to Think Organisation), whom I was lucky enough to meet at my graduation day (cheesy photo below!) Nancy is also the author of this week’s book club recommendation, ‘More Time to Think’.
Thinking Partnership coaching will be relevant to team members you want to coach 1-2-1, perhaps thinking about a new role, business relationship or their executive presence. And of course, we incorporate elements of this type of coaching into all our group communications courses.
Find out more about ‘Thinking Partnership’ coaching here.
Drop us an email if you’d like a quick chat about how I can help you with your own challenges.
to Think by Nancy Kline
“The quality of everything we do depends on the quality of the thinking we do first. The leaders, professionals, parents and teachers who understand this are at the top of their fields and inspire some of the finest independent thinking in their environments.
In More Time to Think, Nancy Kline shares ten effective ways to help people think for themselves with rigour, imagination, courage and grace. From learning that the mind works best in the presence of a question (so never be afraid to risk being wrong) and that a key factor in the quality of a person’s thinking is how they are treated by the people with them while they are thinking, to the importance of appreciation and of facing what you have been denying, Nancy Kline shows how to create a successful Thinking Environment, whether for two people or a larger group.”
If you want to secure that top job, you must understand that the rules of the game are totally different. It’s like a switch has been thrown. At the senior levels there are unspoken truths which will block you or help you win that senior role. Are you ready to play in a very different sandpit? That’s what we coach on our executive presence courses.
These unspoken truths of promotion are infuriating but
easy to unravel. You need to take a big gulp, decide whether you’re prepared to
play the game and work on your strategy. Fear not, you do not need to lose your
authenticity but you will need much more insight, personal flexibility and
You may hear phrases like “She just doesn’t seem to be
(name senior job) material” or “I’m not sure if he’s really got what it takes
for us”. Behind closed doors at senior levels, it’s these ‘gut feel’ type
comments that really drive whether you are invited into the senior level roles.
Vague yes. Unfair yes. Not a fair process. True. But this is the reality when
you strip it right back.
The reason is pretty clear. At the senior levels it’s a tough billet. Colleagues expect a lot from each other and often they play rough behind closed doors. They need to know you can hack it. They want to know you’ll thrive with minimum support. And now expectations of you are very different. You are representing the company brand as well as your own.
So your job is to work out the unspoken truths in your
culture, your own company. Then decide how you want to play the game. What
really matters? What do you need to demonstrate by how you behave and how you
communicate? And to whom? And yes, it is a game but one which will help you
achieve great things for yourself and your team.
Global Executive Presence research clarifies overall key leadership behaviours such as being able to ‘show your teeth’ and integrity. Being clear on your own values, strengths and how to play to your differences will also help. Our coaching and planning tools will ensure you can think all this through and handle things in your own way. Then we’ll coach you on your practical communication across meetings, presentations, tough conversations or in social situations so you can send a consistent message, physically and by what you say when. Have a look at immediate easy executive presence tips now and pass them on.
I appreciate that my honesty may be uncomfortable for some people, but it reflects my own real-life experience past and present working at the top. Read my biography here. These unspoken truths exist so let’s be frank. And anyone can learn how to develop and use their executive presence at work. It is absolutely possible with a good coach behind you.
It’s annual storytelling week, so here is another celebration and recommendation of books and the stories that have influenced our work lives.
Stories are how we communicate at our best and our brains seem wired to receive them too. It is a real art, but one that all of us can learn. Yes really!
On KineticFuture’s Presenting & Storytelling courses we give you specific techniques to uncover the stories that come naturally and find the ones that, for some reason, have a visceral meaning for you.
Whether you are a scientist, a marketeer or a CEO, everyone can easily incorporate stories into their internal or customer meetings. Then we’ll show you how to use your voice and your physicality to tell them with Executive Presence. When the story is yours you’ll find that the passion and impact will come much more naturally. Have a chat with us if this is something you’d like to discuss email@example.com.
This week’s book (Inside Out Revolution by Michael Neill) was recommended to us by Sarah Matthew from The Vibrant Company.
Would you like to experience amazing clarity, peace and freedom, even in the midst of challenging circumstances?
In this ground-breaking new book, bestselling author Michael Neill shares an extraordinary new understanding of how life works that turns traditional psychology on its head. This revolutionary approach is built around three simple principles that explain where our feelings come from and how our experience of life can transform for the better in a matter of moments.
Understanding these principles allows you to tap into the deeper intelligence behind life, access your natural wisdom and guidance, and unleash your limitless creative power. You’ll be able to live with less stress, greater ease and a sense of connection to the larger unfolding of life.
Buy ‘Inside Out Revolution’ by Michael Neill on Amazon.
Drop us an email or give us a ring on +44 (0) 1628 624312 to tell us your story and talk about coaching which adds Rocket Fuel For Your Talent. Read testimonials from our clients here.
The KineticFuture Book Club is focussed on communications and leadership, our specialist area of coaching. To find more book recommendations just search for ‘book club’ in our tips. And do get in touch if you have any book recommendations to tell us about, we love hearing from you.
If ‘develop stronger executive presence’ is on your 2019 development plans, be optimistic! It definitely can be learned quickly with us. It’s just about being true to your own values and understanding the behaviours other leaders expect to see from peers.
The bottom line is that you get to choose to be flexible in each situation or not. It’s that simple. Once you decide to go for it, we know our Executive Presence group course will get you to your goals, in your own authentic way.
Top Tips for Executive Presence (And what it’s not)
Executive Presence effective behaviours have been defined by strong global research. It’s not fluff.
It’s about balancing warmth and authority. It’s not about old-fashioned power plays.
It’s about integrity, ‘showing teeth’ and demonstrating expertise. It’s not superficial.
It’s about getting good work done and empowering teams. It’s not about being the loudest.
It’s about communicating in a flexible, skilled way, suited to a leader not a junior.
KineticFuture has deep expertise in coaching leaders to be highly skilful communicators – on our team courses or 1-2-1 coaching. We work with some of the most exciting companies in the world and have a repeat assignment rate of 100%. We’d love to talk to you.