Tips

Ditch Your Imposter Syndrome

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Happy New Year to you. Today I’m thinking about imposter syndrome – when you’re afraid you’re going to be found out. AAAh! Even Richard Madden, The Bodyguard, winning his Golden Globe this week confessed he’s felt like this all his career. Many business leaders I coach tell me they feel just the same.

So why not ditch this stinking thinking for 2019?

Hot news is… I qualified as a Time To Think business coach yesterday!

I love this powerful approach which achieves extraordinary results fast. I can help you discover a whole new way of thinking about business and yourself. And, of course, this includes ditching that imposter syndrome.

Call me and we’ll tackle it together (find out more here).

Imposter Syndrome Top Tip

Ask yourself:

“What could you assume instead (about yourself) in this situation that would be credible, liberating and genuinely true to you?”

For example, my own new assumption would be that:

“I’ve deep expertise in my field and even if I operated at just 20% of my ability, it would make a huge impact”.

Embarrassing to say out loud but helpful when I need to be brave! You’ll have your own.

Have a wonderful weekend. And call me if you’d like to know more about my Thinking Partnership Coaching – one to one or in groups.

Thrive this Christmas!

It’s less than a week until Christmas and we really hope you’re starting to wind down and look forward to taking time out to be with friends and family.

We recently asked for book recommendations that were the secret of your success – thank you so much to everyone that replied.

This week’s book was recommended to us by Sarah Mieszkian from Button, Business Marketing & Admin Support.

Arianna Huffington, the co-founder and editor in chief of the Huffington Post has written a passionate call to arms in her book ‘Thrive’, looking to redefine what it means to be successful in today’s world.

Sarah says:

The book that has had an impact on me is ‘Thrive’ by Arianna Huffington. Arianna was one of the first high powered women to come out and say “enough is enough” and you don’t have to work all hours to be successful. Taking time out for you is just as important. It has become the normal narrative today but when I read this several years ago it was certainly an eye raiser.

‘Thrive’ has great reviews on Amazon:

Drawing on the latest groundbreaking research and scientific findings in the fields of psychology, sports, sleep and physiology that show the profound and transformative effects of meditation, mindfulness, unplugging and giving, Arianna shows us the way to a revolution in our culture, our thinking, our workplaces, and our lives.

Wishing you a very merry Christmas from KineticFuture! Look out for more KineticFuture bookclub recommendations in 2019.

In the meantime, drop us an email or give us a ring in the new year if you would like to talk about coaching which will help you thrive not just survive, we’d love to work with you.

Choose Respect

It’s Anti-Bullying Week this week. Workplace bullies generally pick on those with status below or equivalent to themselves. And just because you are senior doesn’t mean you’re immune.

So we thought we’d share with you some fast tips on how to deal with workplace bullies.

How do you deal with people who try to squash your status and confidence? The kind of people who try to make you feel insignificant, junior or unimportant. Let’s face it, they do exist.

Here are 5 physical tips to remember:

  1. Bear in mind that people who behave this way are often insecure. Genuinely confident, high status people do not need to put other people down. Quite the opposite. Feel sorry for them.
  2. Check that the ‘confidence and status level’ you are communicating is high enough. Do a body and attitude check. Are you behaving like someone who expects to be picked on? Bullies smell fear.
  3. Come in with high confidence and status and stay there despite what the ‘status squasher’ tries. Just stay relaxed and avoid the temptation to try too hard or to justify yourself. Bullies prey on your desire to fit in, be perfect, be liked etc.
  4. Keep your eye contact strong, maintain an open body language, stay engaged and interested in the meeting and put your point of view clearly. Don’t rush, do use pauses and questions and make sure your voice doesn’t become high or breathless. Wear clothes that communicate your seniority and influence.
  5. Be prepared. Go in knowing your facts and knowing what you want to communicate. If you don’t know the answer to questions, don’t bull****; say you don’t know and you’ll find out.

Find out more about KineticFuture’s executive presence courses and one to one coaching. And why we have a 100% repeat assignment rate.

Find out more about the Anti-Bullying Alliance who organise the Anti-Bullying week ‘Choose Respect’ here.

Stressed Presenting?

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As today is International Stress Awareness Day, it’s good to know that you can, at least, reduce your presentation stress quickly and boost your executive presence in the process. It is absolutely possible. On our new Presenting with Executive Presence Group Course you learn how to tackle the gremlins that hold you back and have fun in the process. You can do it!

We’re off to the Wellbeing at Work conference on Thursday – I’m looking forward to hearing the latest research and implications for leadership.

Presentation Stress is really common. Even CEOs, film stars and professional comedians suffer. And we present so often – talking with colleagues, meetings, video as well as the formal stand ups. You need to tackle it not just because life is too short but because it does affect your executive presence and career.

Top Tip

Ask yourself “what am I assuming that’s causing me to be stressed when I present?”

Make a big long list, however daft you think those thoughts are. Then you’ll see the gremlins (hence the picture!) at work in your brain and writing it down starts to reduce their power.

On our presenting with executive presence courses, we find that the leading drivers for stress are imposter syndrome – people worry about being ‘found out’, a bad previous experience and the ‘boss’ being in the room and feeling judged.

We find a mixture of physical work and rethinking tools make a fast impact on stress. Learning to analyse the situation and create a good narrative with our easy toolkit will also boost your confidence.

We’ve blended the latest brain research, psychology and theatre direction tools to make this course something we’re very proud to share.

Drop us an email or give us a ring if you want to talk about coaching which adds Rocket Fuel For Your Talent (and chases away those nasty gremlins!)

 

Happy Halloween!

Happy Halloween! Today’s book club recommendation helps you overcome fears and boost your resilience. There are no remedies for ghouls in your garden, but great tips you can apply to work and home. We like them so much we’ve incorporated them in our executive presence, presenting and resilience courses. Enjoy!

Today’s book ‘The Resilience Factor’ is recommended by our colleague Jan Stannard, Positive Leadership, who is a top resilience coach. Jan trained with the author Karen Reivich, PhD and her colleague Martin Seligman as part of her work with Wellington College. The book is based on strong research from psychology and neuroscience. Critically, it’s very practical for work and home. With “7 keys to finding your inner strength and overcoming life’s hurdles”.

Buy ‘The Resilience Factor’ on Amazon.

Have a look and let us know what works for you.

On our Executive Presence course you’ll learn to balance warmth and authority at work, how to be open and show vulnerability yet have people know you mean business. And how to do all this your own way, in your own style with your own values. It’s a tightrope worth walking. Contact us on +44 (0)1628 624312 to find out more.

Do let us know your favourite books so that we can add them to the KineticFuture book club reading list.

By the way, you can easily find all our book club recommendations by just searching for ‘book club’ in our tips.