Are You Living Someone Else’s Values?

Are you crystal clear on your own personal values? Or are you relying on words that resemble something you’ve been told to be? Can you name just two values which are at your core? And can you say, hand on heart, that you really live them? This knowledge gives you the resilience, integrity and purpose you need to lead.

Here, I’ve given you some quick tips on how to get going on this. And, if you’d like personal coaching to think about your values, vision or personal brand do drop me a line and we can talk about it. The Time To Think™ coaching approach I use is very different and highly energising.

Quick Tips To Start

Some of the best practical worksheets on values are in Brené Brown’s Dare To Lead book – pages 190-197. So do buy the book. In the meantime, here are a few of her suggestions.

  • Find a long list of values on-line (e.g. legacy, fairness, curiosity). These values will be the same for work or home if they are to be powerful. Sit down quietly. Take your time to really think about each one. Now whittle them down to two values. Others will be important but these two will be your ‘red line’ areas that you will not compromise on and drive the others. Be prepared to feel uncomfortable prioritising these over others.
  • Take each value – write down:
  1. What are three behaviours that support your value?
  2. What are three slippery behaviours that are outside your value?
  3. What’s an example of a time when you were fully living into this value?

Enjoy!

KineticFuture can coach you to be a world-class communicator and leader. Coaching 1-2-1 and in groups. Clients include Abbvie, Amgen, Gilead, GSK, Novartis, Mars, Pladis, WPP and Barclays. We have six main areas of work: Time to Think™ coachingexecutive presencepresenting and storytellingtricky conversationsresilience and communicating purpose.

Contact us today to book a course or to find out more.

KineticFuture Book Club – Taming Tigers

Hang on to those New Year’s resolutions with today’s book club recommendation – ‘Taming Tigers. Do things you never thought you could’ by Jim Lawless. Like join an amateur dramatic group (me!), go for that new job role, or overcome a fear?

Kinetic Future’s coaching and group courses will also give you the boost you need to get there – by increasing confidence, resilience, executive presence or presenting skills.

Taming Tigers was recommended to the KineticFuture book club by Colin Boylan, Director at Fresh Perspectives Market Research, thanks Colin!

Colin says:

“Excellent story and fantastic advice. Really helped drive me forward when I was setting up the business.”

Amazon says:

Everybody has a Tiger. It is the thing that snarls at us when we think about making a change in our lives and stops us developing and achieving our potential. In Taming Tigers Jim Lawless shares his proven and inspirational training programme to help you achieve your dreams by taming the Tigers in your life.
Now for the first time, you can learn how to use these highly practical rules to overcome your fears and do things you never thought you could – in both your professional and private life.

Buy ‘Taming Tigers’ on Amazon.

Drop us an email or give us a ring on +44 (0) 1628 624312 if you want to talk about coaching which adds Rocket Fuel For Your Talent (and helps you tame those tigers).

The KineticFuture Book Club is focussed on communications and leadership, our specialist area of coaching. To find more recommendations just search for ‘book club’ in our tips.

Happy Halloween!

Happy Halloween! Today’s book club recommendation helps you overcome fears and boost your resilience. There are no remedies for ghouls in your garden, but great tips you can apply to work and home. We like them so much we’ve incorporated them in our executive presence, presenting and resilience courses. Enjoy!

Today’s book ‘The Resilience Factor’ is recommended by our colleague Jan Stannard, Positive Leadership, who is a top resilience coach. Jan trained with the author Karen Reivich, PhD and her colleague Martin Seligman as part of her work with Wellington College. The book is based on strong research from psychology and neuroscience. Critically, it’s very practical for work and home. With “7 keys to finding your inner strength and overcoming life’s hurdles”.

Buy ‘The Resilience Factor’ on Amazon.

Have a look and let us know what works for you.

On our Executive Presence course you’ll learn to balance warmth and authority at work, how to be open and show vulnerability yet have people know you mean business. And how to do all this your own way, in your own style with your own values. It’s a tightrope worth walking. Contact us on +44 (0)1628 624312 to find out more.

Do let us know your favourite books so that we can add them to the KineticFuture book club reading list.

By the way, you can easily find all our book club recommendations by just searching for ‘book club’ in our tips.

 

Amazing Humans

Amazing Humans is BBC Three’s series of profiles dedicated to inspirational individuals across the globe who are making changes in their community, big and small.  From acts of kindness and generosity to defying the odds in all shapes and forms.

Click here to go to BBC Three and choose what interests you.

These are some of our personal favourites:

  • The Falkirk student bringing joy to care home residents (image above)
  • The woman who gives free sanitary products to the homeless
  • The biker who sings to people with dementia
  • The lady who creates henna crown tattoos
  • The British doctors who turn drainpipes into prosthetic limbs

The videos are just 2-3 minutes long but beware, you may want to watch them all!

KineticFuture runs fantastic resilience courses which help your team tackle their own resilience and mental game challenges. We’ve worked successfully with sales teams to CEOs.  Our approach is evidence based, 90% practice and pragmatic.  Do give us a call if you’d like to chat through your situation.

Recommended Reading: Black Box Thinking

‘Black Box Thinking’ is an incredibly thought provoking book by bestselling author, columnist (and former Olympic table tennis player) Matthew Syed.

In an occasionally far from easy read, he looks at the secrets of high performers and how they deal with mistakes and weaknesses.

The approach in sport of looking for marginal gains and developing a supportive, learning culture can be applied to business and life in general.

Buy the book from Amazon.

Find out more in this BBC article ‘Viewpoint: Should we all be looking for marginal gains?’

And read some reviews on the book below:

“An extraordinary, inspirational book which reveals how great performers and teams are driven by an insatiable curiosity for marginal gains, together with the intellectual courage to challenge their most cherished assumptions” (Dave Brailsford, General Manager, Team Sky)

“Creative breakthroughs always begin with multiple failures. This brilliant book shows how true invention lies in the understanding and overcoming of these failures, which we must learn to embrace” (James Dyson, Designer, Inventor & Entrepreneur)

‘Black Box Thinking’ will forever change the way you think about screwing up’ (Daniel Pink, Author)

KineticFuture runs fantastic resilience courses which help your team tackle their own resilience and mental game challenges. We’ve worked successfully with sales teams to CEOs.  Our approach is evidence based, 90% practice and pragmatic.  Do give us a call if you’d like to chat through your situation.