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Frustration Buster Part 5 – Why aren’t I more confident?

Even the most successful people in business lack confidence sometimes. They are just better at dealing with the situation.

So here are 7 Quick Confidence Boosters you can apply to meetings, presentations or just to help you rise to a new challenge.

  1. Remind yourself what you offer the other people. Why were you chosen for this job? Write it down and think of specific proof points. Now is the time to get over yourself and start helping others.
  2. Talk to others as a human to human. Stop trying to be impressive. It’s ease which gives you the presence and status. It’s also a truly liberating approach (even the Dalai Lama uses this one!)
  3. Connect to your purpose or what’s important to you. When you do this you will be an authentic and powerful communicator. People will know you are genuine and more likely to support you. Focus on your ‘why’.
  4. Breathe – in and out naturally.
  5. Prepare solidly – accept the worst case scenario, don’t fight it or dwell on it but do have a plan. Focus on the opportunity.
  6. Dump the PowerPoint slides if you can – instead have a two way conversation.
  7. I would say this wouldn’t I! But if you have real confidence challenges, organise some 1-2-1 coaching. It makes a massive difference.

I hope this helps. See more blogs and vlogs at www.kineticfuture.com/inspirations/

KineticFuture offers executive coaching and communications coaching. We specialise in helping leaders ignite their people around purpose. Contact us on +44 (0)1628 624312 to find out more.

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Litter Picking Fun App

This app makes it fun to pick up litter. Who would have thought it?

Jeff Kirschner’s 6 minute Ted talk scores on so many levels. It’s a great example of how to ignite people around your purpose – in his idea and in the way he communicates it.

  1. It’s a presentation about rubbish but it had me interested from the word go – fantastic idea, great data
  2. The story he tells in his presentation is personal, amusing, highly visual, surprising and edgy, with clearly presented data slides. All devices that gain your attention and keep it. His physicality oozes confidence and presence.
  3. His app is tapping in to people’s existing desire to keep doing what they love, taking artistic pictures and sharing them. And the human desire to be included in a bigger community with a real meaningful purpose. Both make it easier for them to act and boost personal happiness.

If you would like to know how to ignite people around your own purpose we can help. We coach leadership teams to be exceptional communicators. Contact us to find out more about our bespoke inspirational courses.

Watch Jeff Kirschner’s talk below.

Visit Litterati to find out more and download the app (for iPhone).

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How Brave Are You?

Presentation style needs to match the audience. But we should all try and remember not to get stuck in just one style of presenting.

This Ted talk by comedian Jill Shargaa may be a bit too ‘bonkers’ for a corporate meeting, but it’s an exaggerated example of what makes a awesome great presentation.

Why?

  1. She has a good opening and draws her audience in straight away with her enthusiasm and passion
  2. She maintains this level of enthusiasm throughout her talk; I wanted to hear more all the way through and you can tell the audience did too
  3. She made me think (about her presenting style and about what I would personally add to my awesome list!)
  4. Her slides are visual, simple and have impact
  5. She kept things uncomplicated, with lots of repetition and her vocal energy, body language and eye contact is great

This lady is a comedian so she’s braver than most in terms of talking to an audience but we can still learn a lot from her style.

How about trying out a fun presenting style for an internal conference? Are you brave enough?!

Our presentation courses are evidence based and 80% physical practice. We blend brain science, positive psychology and advanced communications skills to help leaders become exceptional communicators.  You can work with us one to one or in groups.
Call us today to find out how we can help your leaders become exceptional communicators or check out our courses.

Watch Jill Shargaa’s Ted talk below.

 

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Where is Your Inner Mojo?

When you are ‘flat out busy’ it’s easy to forget that what you do is important. And you are important.

If you sell cancer drugs you are saving lives. If you promote crisps you are making people happy.  If you work in legal and regulatory you are keeping your colleagues and patients safe.

Your presentation audience will listen and connect if they know you are driven by a strong motivation. If it’s all routine to you, why should they listen?

To find this inner mojo, step back on a regular basis and ask yourself two questions

1. What do I really do?

and

2. What does that mean?

Then repeat the questions until you reach something that inspires you.

For example this morning we worked with a leader in legal and regulatory. His first answer was, “I make sure that our work is accurate and legal”.  But when he dug deeper, he could see the bigger importance of what he does.

This mind-set automatically enabled him to deliver his presentation with more impact. We could feel his intensity.  Then the pauses, the eye contact and his call to action to his team all had more power.

Our presentation courses are evidence based and 80% physical practice. We blend brain science, positive psychology and advanced communications skills to help leaders become exceptional communicators.  You can work with us one to one or in groups.
Call us today to find out how we can help your leaders become exceptional communicators or check out our courses.

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Magic Can Be Taught

“If you want to enthral an audience, go where the magic is happening. The black church preachers, the rappers, the barber shops know exactly how to reignite imagination.”

That’s the message from Christopher Emdin, science advocate, at a Ted Talk. He’s encouraging teachers to bring back the wonder to teaching and his ideas are useful for business presenters too.

See how the church preacher asks for an ‘Amen’ when the congregation starts to drift. What’s your business version of that?  Listen to the metaphors of rappers.  What could you emulate?  How about the story telling skills of a favourite barber?

Have a look at Christopher’s own authentic and different presentation style. You can hear how he’s using repetition like a preacher to make a point.  Feel the passion in his voice.  Look at the stillness of his body language and eventually, the animation of his hands when he relaxes.

Above all his style is clear, fresh and different. Magic can be taught.  You can present magically.

Our presentation courses are evidence based and 80% physical practice. We blend brain science, positive psychology and advanced communications skills to help leaders become exceptional communicators.  You can work with us one to one or in groups.
Call us today to find out how we can help your leaders become exceptional communicators or check out our courses.

Watch Christopher Emdin’s Ted talk ‘Teach Teachers How to Create Magic’ below.

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What Should I do with My Hands?

Remember the Faulty Towers sketch “Don’t Mention the War”. Well that’s how I feel about even mentioning the words hands and presentations in the same sentence. The more you think about them the worse it can get. But it is a question that comes up in 95% of our training sessions.

So, if you are feeling very self conscious about your hands when you present, there are some techniques which will help you look confident and open.

  • Do what comes naturally to you when you’re at your relaxed best. Presentations are just a conversation.
  • Remember it is all about generosity – sharing your enthusiasm and energy with the audience.
  • Ignore people who talk about ‘windmill arms’. We rarely see anyone who gesticulates too much.
  • Use your hands to match the story you are telling and to make it really interesting. Start to be aware of how you naturally do this when you are talking with friends.
  • If you feel uncomfortable, just concentrate on keeping your hands up in front of you and open. Even if you make small gestures it will be better than locking your arms by your sides or closing your arms across your body.
  • Find a holding position for when you start or are waiting for questions. Place your hands with a few fingers lightly touching together in front of your tummy button – this works as long as they are not tense. Hands dropped by your side are good or even put your hands behind your back if you are desperate.  Just stay open and relaxed.

Our presentation courses are evidence based and 80% physical practice. We blend brain science, positive psychology and advanced communications skills to help leaders become exceptional communicators.  You can work with us one to one or in groups.
Call us today to find out how we can help your leaders become exceptional communicators.

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What Gives You Away?

Remember the baddie in Casino Royale playing poker with James Bond? Bond thought that his blood tears were his ‘tell’ – the giveaway sign that he had a bad hand and was uncomfortable.

When you present, it’s valuable to know what you do when you are uncomfortable. We call this ‘managing your tell’.

Some people smile too much, others close up their body language or step backwards, a few get aggressive. What’s your own tell?  We all do something different and weird.

Humans are excellent at knowing when something isn’t quite right and can interpret your ‘tell’ as insecurity, lack of conviction or simply that they’ve hit a raw nerve in the negotiations.

When we coach groups, we help you find your own ‘tell’ by simulating your personal high pressure situation. You’ll be surprised by what you find.  You describe your own scenario, walk through the door into the meeting, start to speak and take tough questions from colleagues.  I can guarantee your ‘tell’ will emerge in just two minutes.

Once you have this valuable knowledge you can manage it and stay relaxed under pressure.

You can try this yourself but do practice with colleagues you know and trust and don’t get too personal!

Come on one of our Presence courses to learn to ‘manage your tell’ and maintain your presence and authority during Q&A, meetings and presentations. We’d love to hear from you. Contact us to find out more.

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Who Gets The Money?

The strongest predictor of who gets venture capital investment is not the credentials or the content of the pitch.  The strongest predictors are the traits: confidence, comfort level and passionate enthusiasm.

Harvard Professor Amy Cuddy reveals data from Lakshmi Balachandra in her new Presence book.  Balachandra investigated the way entrepreneurs made 185 pitches to potential investors and the way investors responded.

This is relevant for all of us as we go into budget meeting season, whatever industry we’re in.  The clear message is that it’s important to focus as much time on your own ‘professional presence’ as on your content.  But how many times do you find your teams pouring over the final slides at the last minute rather than working on how they communicate?  It’s like going into bat with your hand tied behind your back.

The data may sound puzzling but it makes a great deal of sense.  What the investors are looking for is a person who will deliver the plan.  If the entrepreneur looks like they don’t genuinely believe in the proposition or isn’t genuinely confident, why should the investor believe?

The other interesting part of this research is that the investors distrusted ‘slick’ communicators and were looking for the genuine person.

You can learn these business skills with KineticFuture.  We have a new training programme called ‘Professional Presence. The power of the truth’, which blends skills from psychology, brain science and theatre.  Call us if you would like to know more.

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The Science of Presence

In her new book ‘Presence’ Harvard psychologist and TED star Amy Cuddy reveals how to unleash your boldest self to heighten your confidence, influence others, and perform at your peak.

Amy Cuddy has galvanized tens of millions of viewers around the world with her TED talk about “power poses.”

Now she presents the enthralling science underlying these and many other fascinating body-mind effects, and teaches us how to use simple techniques to liberate ourselves from fear in high-pressure moments, perform at our best, and connect with and empower others to do the same.

Brilliantly researched, impassioned, and accessible, Presence is filled with stories of individuals who learned how to flourish during the stressful moments that once terrified them. Every reader will learn how to approach their biggest challenges with confidence instead of dread, and to leave them with satisfaction instead of regret.

KineticFuture courses incorporate the latest science with practical tools. We coach leaders to be exceptional communicators for presentations, video and select committees. Do call us if you’d like to know more.

Buy Amy’s book ‘Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges’ on Amazon.

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What Are You Wearing?

It’s useful to re-evaluate what you wear to work if you are stepping into a new role, whether you are male or female.  You can get professional help to make it a reality – useful if you are busy, don’t like shopping or keep making costly mistakes.

What you wear is an important part of your leadership communications strategy.  Humans assess visual information in seconds.  Use it to your advantage not a hindrance.

First of all ask yourself how you want to be perceived as a leader in your new role – internally and externally?

It really boils down to what you want to communicate as a brand – you as an individual and you as a representative of your company.

For example if you are a leader of a retail organisation promoting innovation and creativity, does what you wear today support this message?  Equally, if you are a senior corporate lawyer what can you wear to help you win the confidence of your clients?

You’ll also need a flexible set of clothes.  Not just for variety (people will be watching you) but practicality too.  Big stage presentations, video, TV, internal informal chats, customer meetings, shareholder meetings, board meetings all require a slightly different approach.

The right clothes, accessories, hair and grooming can support you, your vision and brand message.  They can boost your confidence, help you look taller, thinner, younger, more authoritative or more approachable.  It’s a question of being aware of what’s working now and all the subtle things you can do that make a big difference.

We recommend business stylist Maggie McMillan from The Style Counsel who regularly works with male and female leaders in industries from banking and finance to technology and retail.  She works in different ways.  Sometimes it’s purely an evaluation and general advice, other clients ask her to go with them to buy the right clothes for different occasions – using her contacts and knowledge across London to cut down shopping time.

If you’d like to know more just drop us a line and we’ll put you in touch with Maggie.