Ruby Wax has recently launched her new book – a fun, accessible guide to what this mindfulness ‘stuff’ is all about and the neuroscience evidence behind it. I particularly like her quote:
“If we don’t advance our more human qualities then we’re doomed evolution-wise to become cyborgs, with an imprint of an ‘Apple’ where our hearts used to be.”
Buy ‘A Mindfulness Guide for the Frazzled’ from Amazon here.
For more help on mindfulness in moments of stress (perhaps when you are about to give an important presentation or attend a critical meeting), here’s a link to a very practical tool. It’s incredibly simple, only takes a moment (actually just one minute), and could help you find both the composure and the energy you need to give a great presentation.
The One-Moment Meditation (OMM) app by author Martin Boroson, says:
“OMM is based on a very simple but powerful principle: you really can make a significant change in your state of mind quickly. Just take a minute to tune in… and bring your mind back to the moment.
You can use the OMM app to reduce stress, improve focus, or boost your productivity and health. With its one simple exercise, which just gets better over time, you’ll be able to recharge your batteries and find a bright, calm, and clear state of mind—anytime, anywhere. You will see how taking just a brief pause to restore your attention can help you do everything better.”
On our presentation coaching courses, we blend brain science, positive psychology and advanced communications skills to help leaders become exceptional communicators. You can work with us one to one or in groups. Contact us to find out more.
I don’t often read autobiographies but couldn’t resist Sue Perkins’ new book ‘Spectacles’ – I love her sense of humour and was keen to find out more about her life and how she got into comedy. I’m now half way through and I’m so glad I did – I’m a sucker for an eye-catching cover and her writing style is incredibly readable and funny.
One of my favourite chapters in the book so far is when Sue meets her comic partner, Mel Giedroyc. She talks about their worst four performances at the start of their partnership, back in the 1990s; a long time before they started saying “Bake!” on our screens.
The tales are hilarious (in their awfulness at least!) This is partly due to the types of audiences they performed to and partly due to the description of what happens to Mel when they are about to go on stage and she has to deal with her nerves. Sue says,
“It is exactly at that point, on the cusp of starting a show, that Mel’s bowels swing into action.”
Not 5 minutes before, when they had time to prepare (and were near the toilets!), but at the exact point when they are being called to go on stage. Good timing!
It could be just the same when you are about to present at work – how do you deal with your nerves? Do you prepare yourself for how your anxiety will affect you? Or do you leave it until the last minute like Mel?! We have put together a ‘Manage Your Presentation Nerves’ checklist as part of our Big Checklist Series – with some essential tips on how to manage your nerves when you present – click here for the PDF.
I hope you find these tips useful. Enjoy your presenting, and maybe put Sue’s book ‘Spectacles’ on your Christmas list?! I’m personally looking forward to one of the final chapters, ‘I Am Become Cake, the Destroyer of Midriffs’! Buy the book on Amazon here.
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Think of Wimbledon winner Novak Djokovic. One of his key strategies is how he manages his mind so he can perform under pressure.
Now neuroscientists have come up with an evidence based approach to bust our nerves and fears – for presentations and other situations too. We’ve created a system for you in this Big Checklist.
Here are the highlights:
Before an emotion kicks in
- Get briefed – certainty calms the brain
- Face the fear – understand your personal ‘hot spots’
- Use brain training – it helps improve focus
- Change your physicality – open confident poses will reduce your cortisol stress levels
After an emotion kicks in
- Don’t ignore it – suppressing doesn’t work
- Label it – just with one or two words. This dampens down the automatic limbic system
- Flip it – find another way of looking at it. Reappraisal is good for heavier emotional loads.
You can be an exceptional communicator. It’s absolutely possible. Find out more about our presentations, personal presence and gravitas course here.
You can manage your nerves by flipping how you think about that presentation or important meeting.
The idea is create some perspective, inject some realism and challenge your own thinking. Ironically, if you are more relaxed and less desperate for the outcome you are more likely to get what you want and you’ll certainly enjoy the experience more.
Try one of these reframes for some common angsts or invent your own.
- I’m excited v I’m nervous
- They want me to succeed v I’m being judged
- I can really help these guys v I must succeed and impress
- I will find another opportunity v I can’t fail
- I can advise but it’s their choice v they must do this
- They would be lucky to get me v I must get the role
What do you do to overcome nerves and do a great job when you are under pressure? We’d love to hear from you.
Extracts taken from the KineticFuture Advanced Leadership Communications Programme – get in touch if you’d like to know more.