Leaders are only human. This is a great Ted talk we thought you’d enjoy if you want to tackle any of your own bad habits at work and at home. It’s all part of being a great energising leader.
This great Ted Talk shows that it’s more effective to be curious about a bad habit than fight it. The technique tested was twice as effective as the gold standard smoking cessation therapy.
You can use the same approach whatever your habit. Perhaps you get stressed or angry at work or constantly look at texts, drink too much or take no exercise. Most of us do something which isn’t helpful to us as leaders and as humans.
This Ted Talk is from psychiatrist and addiction expert Judson Brewer. He’s using a blend of mindfulness and neuroscience to find a way of slowly letting go of bad habits.
Part of the solution is to be curious in the moment of committing a bad habit; feeling and noticing what’s going on. One of the people in the smoking cessation study said, “It smells like smelly cheese and tastes like chemicals. Yuck”. It’s a way of breaking the spell.
So the process is:
1. You have the urge
2. You are curious
3. Have the joy of letting go and
Developing insight into your own strengths and ways of thinking is the starting point for our Energising Leadership Programme. If you’d like to find out how it can help your team to become energised and energising leaders, contact us today.
Watch Judson Brewer’s Ted Talk ‘A simple way to break a bad habit’ below.
Watch ‘Human’ by Rag’n’Bone Man below.
It’s the opening of the Rio Paralympics tonight.
If you do nothing else today watch the amazing video attached. “We’re the Superhumans”. It will raise your spirits, make you cry and make you determined to be all you can be. Go for it.
You’ll tap into two of the biggest powerhouses of resilience. Appreciation and humour.
Energise your teams by playing the video and help them to realise “Yes. I can”.
You can learn more about how to energise your teams and boost resilience on our great Energising Leadership courses.
Call us and we’ll show you how.
Many companies now have ‘energising leadership’ as one of their key performance indicators. The reason is simple. If people are energised, they enjoy work more and perform better.
Research from Professor Kim Cameron, Michigan Business School shows you how to make this happen.
First of all, what do we mean by energised?
It means that after someone has contact with you they feel invigorated, have more energy, experience increased vitality, more stamina and would seek you out if they needed a boost. The great thing is that you can research and map your current position and build a strategy for the future.
It’s all part of a Positive Leadership approach which we know delivers commercial benefit. Energising leadership provides a key component of KineticFuture’s Positive Leadership Programme. We coach you to work out how to implement these ideas in your own natural style, day to day.
Professor Cameron identified ten attributes of Positive Energisers. Why not assess yourself on a scale of 1-10 across a week to see where your strengths are and where you could develop.
- Helps others flourish
- Trustworthy and has integrity
- Uses abundance language (strengths, things going well)
- Notices what’s going on and is fully engaged
- Genuine and authentic
- Sees opportunities
- Solves problems
- Expresses gratitude and humility
If you would like to run a Positive Leadership. Peak Performance Programme for your leadership team, please do contact us for more information.
Buy Kim Cameron’s book on Amazon: Practicing Positive Leadership.
Image by NASA, via Wikimedia Commons. In 1978 six astronauts who had been in training at the Johnson Space Center for almost a year are getting a sample of weightlessness. They are onboard the NASA KC-135 that uses a special parabolic pattern to create brief periods of microgravity, affording astronauts and astronaut candidates a preview of spaceflight. These flights are nicknamed the “vomit comet” because of the nausea that is often induced.
More wise words from Chris Hadfield this week. Why not write down three things that you could savour right now. It could be a good conversation, your walk in the park or something small that made you laugh. Whatever works for you. It’ll boost your dopamine and your performance at work today. This and other techniques can energise us all and are a key part of our Positive Leadership, Peak Performance course.
“What we do in space is serious, yes, but it’s also incredibly fun. It’s not just about the epic EVA but the M&Ms dancing merrily inside the package, colliding colourfully in weightlessness,” says Commander Chris Hadfield in his book ‘An Astronaut’s Guide to Life on Earth’.
Here’s Our Pithy Quote from the Book #5
“Life is full of so many small unexpected pleasures, not just in space but right here on Earth and I think I see them more clearly now than I used to because microgravity insists you pay attention. Weightlessness is like a new toy you get to unwrap every day, again and again.
It’s a great reminder too that you need to savour the small stuff, not just sweat it”.
Savouring the good things is a key habit which research shows boosts resilience, well-being and performance at work. Even on the tough days we can find something to celebrate for ourselves and with our teams. It’ll energise you and the people around you.
If you would like to learn an evidence based approach to energising yourself and others, do contact us and we can show you how we tackle this on our courses.
Buy Chris Hadfield’s book on Amazon.
Focus your energy on what you can influence and accept what you can’t. You’ll be more effective and certainly less stressed. It’s a cliché but true. There are some things you won’t ever change and it’s time to accept them and move on.
But where does this sit with real ambition to achieve great change or great vision? Is acceptance just about giving up or giving in? Isn’t it a leader’s job to be optimistic and make the impossible possible?
Go a bit deeper into the subject of acceptance and it becomes a more useful idea at work. Acceptance is not about giving in or putting up with bad behaviour.
First of all acceptance is about planning and timing. There are certain things at certain points that are not going to shift right now, so be clear about the path to success and accept that things can change in stages. It’s a marathon not a sprint.
Secondly, a great question to ask yourself is ‘what or who am I resisting in my life right now?’ Sit quietly for 5 minutes and ask yourself the question as if you are a curious bystander and see what emerges as thoughts and feelings. Don’t try too hard. This often starts to reveal the things which are frustrations for you – things which are not always useful and just getting in your way. Perhaps things you need to accept. This awareness is incredibly useful and energising.
Bear in mind too, that many leaders use meditation to help them liberate their minds to achieve high performance. See www.headspace.com. This question comes from their Acceptance pack in the Relationship series.
Extracts taken from Energise, the KineticFuture course for leadership development. It shows leaders how to energise themselves and energise others to achieve their goals. Contact us to find out more.
If you are interested in an 8 week course which combines mindfulness with cognitive behavioural therapy, one of the most highly recommended public courses is at the Oxford University Mindfulness Centre. Find out more about the course here.