The Secret Language of Leadership

This week’s book club recommendation comes from Simon Lancaster, one of the world’s top speechwriters. Simon’s book, ‘Winning Minds, Secrets from the Language of Leadership’ blends ancient rhetoric and neuroscience to create the definitive guide to the language of leadership.

This book is a wonderful resource! We use it as part of our KineticFuture Leadership Communications Coaching and Courses and always recommend Simon as a speech writer.

The opening paragraph talks about Boris Johnson’s opening speech at the London Olympics, when everyone came together to celebrate Great Britain and our achievements in putting on such an amazing event. The crowd and the whole country were buzzing.

Simon says:

“There is a secret language of leadership – a secret set of physical, verbal and vocal cues and signals that has existed for tens of thousands of years which still determines who makes it to the top in business and politics today.”

Some quotes from Amazon:

“Winning Minds lays bare with shocking clarity the simple techniques that great communicators use to manipulate our emotions. Give them a go and unleash your hidden leader!” – Peter Wanless, CEO, NSPCC

“Simon’s book unlocks the secret of how to be a world-class communicator and leader in a book that is as entertaining as it is packed with know-how.” – Darren Childs, UKTV Media

Find out more about Simon Lancaster’s specialist speech writing agency here: https://www.bespokespeeches.com/

Watch Simon in action on Youtube.

Buy Simon’s book on Amazon.

KineticFuture can coach you to be a world-class communicator and leader. Coaching 1-2-1 and in groups. Clients include Abbvie, Amgen, Gilead, GSK, Novartis, Mars, Pladis, WPP and Barclays. We have six main areas of work: Thinking partnership coaching, executive presence, presenting and storytelling, tricky conversations, resilience and communicating purpose.

Contact us today to book a course or to find out more.

Calling All Library Lovers

I have a spring in my step, it must be the milder weather, plus the fact that I recently graduated as a Time to Think Coach after a year of hard slog, hooray!

I qualified as a business coach eight years ago, but this has transformed the results I achieve. It was pioneered by Nancy Kline (Founder & President of The Time to Think Organisation), whom I was lucky enough to meet at my graduation day (cheesy photo below!) Nancy is also the author of this week’s book club recommendation, ‘More Time to Think’.

Left to right: Ruth McCarthy (my Time to Think coach), me, Nancy Kline (Founder & President of The Time to Think Organisation)

Thinking Partnership coaching will be relevant to team members you want to coach 1-2-1, perhaps thinking about a new role, business relationship or their executive presence. And of course, we incorporate elements of this type of coaching into all our group communications courses.

Find out more about ‘Thinking Partnership’ coaching here.

Drop us an email if you’d like a quick chat about how I can help you with your own challenges.

More Time to Think by Nancy Kline

Amazon says:

“The quality of everything we do depends on the quality of the thinking we do first. The leaders, professionals, parents and teachers who understand this are at the top of their fields and inspire some of the finest independent thinking in their environments.

In More Time to Think, Nancy Kline shares ten effective ways to help people think for themselves with rigour, imagination, courage and grace. From learning that the mind works best in the presence of a question (so never be afraid to risk being wrong) and that a key factor in the quality of a person’s thinking is how they are treated by the people with them while they are thinking, to the importance of appreciation and of facing what you have been denying, Nancy Kline shows how to create a successful Thinking Environment, whether for two people or a larger group.”

Buy Nancy’s book ‘More Time to Think’ on Amazon.

We like to be topical here at KineticFuture. So, did you know February is library lovers’ month?

Here are some of our favourite quotes on libraries:

“If you have a garden and a library, you have everything” – Marcus Tullius Cicero

“If you want to get laid, go to college. If you want an education, go to the library” – Frank Zappa

“A library is the delivery room for the birth of ideas, a place where history comes to life” – Norman Cousins

“I have always imagined that paradise will be a kind of library” – Jorge Luis Borges

KineticFuture specialises in coaching leaders to be highly skilful communicators. Coaching 1-2-1 and in groups. Clients include Abbvie, Amgen, Gilead, GSK, Novartis, Mars, Pladis, WPP and Barclays. We have six main areas of work: – Thinking partnership coachingexecutive presencepresenting and storytelling, tricky conversations, resilience and communicating purpose. Contact us to find out more.

Unspoken Truths of Promotion

If you want to secure that top job, you must understand that the rules of the game are totally different. It’s like a switch has been thrown. At the senior levels there are unspoken truths which will block you or help you win that senior role. Are you ready to play in a very different sandpit? That’s what we coach on our executive presence courses.

These unspoken truths of promotion are infuriating but easy to unravel. You need to take a big gulp, decide whether you’re prepared to play the game and work on your strategy. Fear not, you do not need to lose your authenticity but you will need much more insight, personal flexibility and savvy.

You may hear phrases like “She just doesn’t seem to be (name senior job) material” or “I’m not sure if he’s really got what it takes for us”. Behind closed doors at senior levels, it’s these ‘gut feel’ type comments that really drive whether you are invited into the senior level roles. Vague yes. Unfair yes. Not a fair process. True. But this is the reality when you strip it right back.

The reason is pretty clear. At the senior levels it’s a tough billet. Colleagues expect a lot from each other and often they play rough behind closed doors. They need to know you can hack it. They want to know you’ll thrive with minimum support. And now expectations of you are very different. You are representing the company brand as well as your own. 

So your job is to work out the unspoken truths in your culture, your own company. Then decide how you want to play the game. What really matters? What do you need to demonstrate by how you behave and how you communicate? And to whom? And yes, it is a game but one which will help you achieve great things for yourself and your team.

Global Executive Presence research clarifies overall key leadership behaviours such as being able to ‘show your teeth’ and integrity. Being clear on your own values, strengths and how to play to your differences will also help. Our coaching and planning tools will ensure you can think all this through and handle things in your own way. Then we’ll coach you on your practical communication across meetings, presentations, tough conversations or in social situations so you can send a consistent message, physically and by what you say when. Have a look at immediate easy executive presence tips now and pass them on.

I appreciate that my honesty may be uncomfortable for some people, but it reflects my own real-life experience past and present working at the top. Read my biography here. These unspoken truths exist so let’s be frank. And anyone can learn how to develop and use their executive presence at work. It is absolutely possible with a good coach behind you.

KineticFuture specialises in coaching leaders to be highly skilful communicators. Coaching 1-2-1 and in groups. Clients include Abbvie, Amgen, Gilead, GSK, Novartis, Mars, Pladis, WPP and Barclays. They have six main areas of work: – Thinking partnership coaching, executive presence, presenting and storytelling, tricky conversations, resilience and communicating purposeContact us to find out more.

Choose Respect

It’s Anti-Bullying Week this week. Workplace bullies generally pick on those with status below or equivalent to themselves. And just because you are senior doesn’t mean you’re immune.

So we thought we’d share with you some fast tips on how to deal with workplace bullies.

How do you deal with people who try to squash your status and confidence? The kind of people who try to make you feel insignificant, junior or unimportant. Let’s face it, they do exist.

Here are 5 physical tips to remember:

  1. Bear in mind that people who behave this way are often insecure. Genuinely confident, high status people do not need to put other people down. Quite the opposite. Feel sorry for them.
  2. Check that the ‘confidence and status level’ you are communicating is high enough. Do a body and attitude check. Are you behaving like someone who expects to be picked on? Bullies smell fear.
  3. Come in with high confidence and status and stay there despite what the ‘status squasher’ tries. Just stay relaxed and avoid the temptation to try too hard or to justify yourself. Bullies prey on your desire to fit in, be perfect, be liked etc.
  4. Keep your eye contact strong, maintain an open body language, stay engaged and interested in the meeting and put your point of view clearly. Don’t rush, do use pauses and questions and make sure your voice doesn’t become high or breathless. Wear clothes that communicate your seniority and influence.
  5. Be prepared. Go in knowing your facts and knowing what you want to communicate. If you don’t know the answer to questions, don’t bull****; say you don’t know and you’ll find out.

Find out more about KineticFuture’s executive presence courses and one to one coaching. And why we have a 100% repeat assignment rate.

Find out more about the Anti-Bullying Alliance who organise the Anti-Bullying week ‘Choose Respect’ here.

New Executive Presence Courses Launched

You can learn a lot about confidence and self-belief when you’re stuck up a mountain with just a pair of skis. I have transferred innovative psychological ideas from ski coaching to our new KineticFuture Executive Presence group courses. Here’s me looking very proud of myself on the slopes with a good friend.

We’re excited to launch our new Executive Presence courses – offering more personal coaching, new energising simulations, and even better results.

You can Learn how to use Executive Presence in presentations, meetings and tough conversations. In your own unique style. Using the latest global research and KineticFuture’s own deep expertise.

Everyone can achieve Executive Presence with good coaching and hard work.

YOU CAN DISCOVER HOW TO:

  •  Build your standing and impact with leaders and teams
  • Communicate with confidence and grace under fire
  • Balance warmth, authority and gravitas
  • Connect to people and inspire quickly
  • Use your power to thrive and support others
  • Show your decisiveness and ‘teeth’ when needed
  • Enhance your reputation and standing
  • Communicate your vision with charisma
  • Say no in 100 ways

Find out why companies like Novartis, Abbvie, Mars, Reckitt Benckiser, GSK and Barclays choose KineticFuture for executive presence courses and one to one coaching.  And why we have a 100% repeat assignment rate.

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