It’s Anti-Bullying Week this week. Workplace bullies generally pick on those with status below or equivalent to themselves. And just because you are senior doesn’t mean you’re immune.
So we thought we’d share with you some fast tips on how to deal with workplace bullies.
How do you deal with people who try to squash your status and confidence? The kind of people who try to make you feel insignificant, junior or unimportant. Let’s face it, they do exist.
Here are 5 physical tips to remember:
- Bear in mind that people who behave this way are often insecure. Genuinely confident, high status people do not need to put other people down. Quite the opposite. Feel sorry for them.
- Check that the ‘confidence and status level’ you are communicating is high enough. Do a body and attitude check. Are you behaving like someone who expects to be picked on? Bullies smell fear.
- Come in with high confidence and status and stay there despite what the ‘status squasher’ tries. Just stay relaxed and avoid the temptation to try too hard or to justify yourself. Bullies prey on your desire to fit in, be perfect, be liked etc.
- Keep your eye contact strong, maintain an open body language, stay engaged and interested in the meeting and put your point of view clearly. Don’t rush, do use pauses and questions and make sure your voice doesn’t become high or breathless. Wear clothes that communicate your seniority and influence.
- Be prepared. Go in knowing your facts and knowing what you want to communicate. If you don’t know the answer to questions, don’t bull****; say you don’t know and you’ll find out.
Find out more about KineticFuture’s executive presence courses and one to one coaching. And why we have a 100% repeat assignment rate.
Find out more about the Anti-Bullying Alliance who organise the Anti-Bullying week ‘Choose Respect’ here.
You can learn a lot about confidence and self-belief when you’re stuck up a mountain with just a pair of skis. I have transferred innovative psychological ideas from ski coaching to our new KineticFuture Executive Presence group courses. Here’s me looking very proud of myself on the slopes with a good friend.
We’re excited to launch our new Executive Presence courses – offering more personal coaching, new energising simulations, and even better results.
You can Learn how to use Executive Presence in presentations, meetings and tough conversations. In your own unique style. Using the latest global research and KineticFuture’s own deep expertise.
Everyone can achieve Executive Presence with good coaching and hard work.
YOU CAN DISCOVER HOW TO:
- Build your standing and impact with leaders and teams
- Communicate with confidence and grace under fire
- Balance warmth, authority and gravitas
- Connect to people and inspire quickly
- Use your power to thrive and support others
- Show your decisiveness and ‘teeth’ when needed
- Enhance your reputation and standing
- Communicate your vision with charisma
- Say no in 100 ways
Find out why companies like Novartis, Abbvie, Mars, Reckitt Benckiser, GSK and Barclays choose KineticFuture for executive presence courses and one to one coaching. And why we have a 100% repeat assignment rate.
Check out snoworks.co.uk to improve your skiing.
I’m finally back from Canada and buzzing with the huge success of seeing grizzly bears and orcas. What an amazing experience!
It’s great to go away but also good to get back to work with fresh vigour. Today we’re formally and proudly launching our new brand identity, proposition and services. It’s all in response to the challenges you told us were most pressing right now.
We’re now 100% focussed on our area of deepest expertise – coaching leaders to be highly skilful communicators.
Our team’s purpose is to be ‘Rocket Fuel For Your Talent’.
Among many things, you told us:
- Confidence is still a big issue. You want to flex your communications style for impact
- You’re not sure how to have executive presence and authority in today’s global business world. Executive presence supersedes gravitas
- Women dislike the word power and want new, authentic ways to get important work done
- You want to make work fun, enjoyable and encourage innovation.
Our response to this new world order is:
- Personalised coaching is what you want – in groups or 1-2-1
- Use solid research of what works in real life today
- Give you tools to think independently and coach others
- Everything starts with a communications strategy, or you’re dead
- Blend coaching specialists from communications, theatre, psychology, neuroscience, storytelling and industry sectors
Have a look at our new proposition, the tips function and case studies.
Are we missing anything? We love to keep learning and developing and know you do too.
Drop us an email or give us a ring if you want to talk about coaching which adds Rocket Fuel For Your Talent (or if you’d like to know more about seeing bears and orcas in Canada!)
Image of Euro Hockey player Maddie Hinch sourced from Flickr & cropped for use.
Here’s the second in our ‘managing your tell’ vlog series. Very relevant as we are all in planning negotiations at this time of year. With solutions to one of the most common ‘tells’ we coach. Click here to watch.
Let us know how you get on.
To receive high quality coaching on HOW to develop your own executive presence and gravitas for your own situation do give us a ring. We develop practical programmes to suit you.
Email firstname.lastname@example.org or call us on +44 (0) 1628 621312.
Watch part 1 of this vlog series here.
This is a fascinating book by Russ Harris. It’s a programme based on ACT: a mindfulness-based approach to overcoming anxiety and stress. He uses great day to day analogies we can all relate to with lots of practical quizzes, worksheets and exercises too.
The central idea is that it’s more effective to observe any unhelpful thoughts or feelings rather than try to control them or fight them. And then to ensure that you act on your values.
I’m finding the ideas helpful for me and for the leaders I coach. Try them out for your next presentation, big meeting or challenging conversation.
Here are some simple tips from the first part of the book to help you de-fuse those frustrations or anxious thoughts:
- Notice the thought or feeling is there
- Observe it, don’t fight it or challenge it
- Say ‘thanks mind’ or ‘thanks for sharing’. Notice what happens, or
- Pick a favourite cartoon character or movie character like Brian’s mum in ‘The Life of Brian’, (my favourite!), bring it to mind and ‘hear’ the thought in that voice. Notice what happens.
You can use these ideas yourself for day to day worries. The ACT programme is also used by counsellors to help with depression. Buy ‘The Happiness Trap’ by Russ Harris on Amazon here.
KineticFuture is a leadership coaching company specialising in communications. We coach one to one and in groups. Contact Karen Moyse if you’d like to discuss this on Karen@kineticfuture.com