Words That Weaken You

There are words that sneak into your language and undermine your leadership and executive presence. You don’t need them, and you can get rid of them fast! 

They signal to your boss, your clients or your colleagues that you are not confident, like little negative beacons. On our executive presence and presentation courses, our clients identify them, ban them from the workshop and set forfeits for each other if they sneak back in. You can play this game with yourself or a friend. Have a go. It’ll drive you nuts!  

So, find out more about our executive presence and presentation courses and find below the most common words that weaken you.

Here are our top six undermining filler words. So small yet so significant. All you need to do is to catch yourself and stop saying them – your authority and presence will rise.  

Maybe

Perhaps

Sort of

Kind of

I’ll try

Sorry

(stop apologising for being in the room!)

KineticFuture can coach you to be a world-class leader and communicator. Coaching 1-2-1 and in groups. Clients include Abbvie, Amgen, Gilead, GSK, Novartis, Mars, Pladis, WPP and Barclays.

We have six main areas of work: Time to think coachingexecutive presencepresenting and storytellingtricky conversationsresilience and communicating purpose.

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Where’s Your Courage and Conviction?

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Greta Thunberg, 16, environmental activist has had a major impact on the debate and on me.

I kicked off my presentation course last week by showing this video of Greta below. She proves you don’t have to be an expert, have titles or be a slick presenter to have a tremendous impact and gravitas.

What you need to find is authentic conviction and the courage to be yourself. My only request of the people in the presentation workshop was that they bring themselves to our work that day. The answer was a resounding yes. And they did. Brilliantly.

If you would like coaching to find and use your authentic conviction and courage for your meetings and presentations, please do email me on karen@kineticfuture.com. It will transform your ability to communicate and lead. Find out more about our courses here.

Why do you do what you do?

Another KineticFuture book club recommendation we’d like to share with you, from Vincent Byrne at Vincent Byrne Consulting.

Simon Sinek is a British-American author and motivational speaker, and organizational consultant. He is the author of four books, including “Start With Why.” 

Goodreads says:

Why are some people and organizations more innovative, more influential, and more profitable than others? Why do some command greater loyalty from customers and employees alike? Even among the successful, why are so few able to repeat their success over and over?

People like Martin Luther King Jr., Steve Jobs, and the Wright Brothers might have little in common, but they all started with why. It was their natural ability to start with why that enabled them to inspire those around them and to achieve remarkable things.

In studying the leaders who’ve had the greatest influence in the world, Simon Sinek discovered that they all think, act, and communicate in the exact same way — and it’s the complete opposite of what everyone else does. Sinek calls this powerful idea The Golden Circle, and it provides a framework upon which organizations can be built, movements can be lead, and people can be inspired. And it all starts with WHY.

Any organization can explain what it does; some can explain how they do it; but very few can clearly articulate why. WHY is not money or profit — those are always results. WHY does your organization exist? WHY does it do the things it does? WHY do customers really buy from one company or another? WHY are people loyal to some leaders, but not others?

Starting with WHY works in big business and small business, in the nonprofit world and in politics. Those who start with WHY never manipulate, they inspire. And the people who follow them don’t do so because they have to; they follow because they want to.

Drawing on a wide range of real-life stories, Sinek weaves together a clear vision of what it truly takes to lead and inspire. This book is for anyone who wants to inspire others or who wants to find someone to inspire them.

Buy Start With Why by Simon Sinek on Amazon.

If you have any book recommendations to share with us, please get in touch.

KineticFuture can coach you to be a world-class leader and communicator. Coaching 1-2-1 and in groups. Clients include Abbvie, Amgen, Gilead, GSK, Novartis, Mars, Pladis, WPP and Barclays.

We have six main areas of work: Time to think coachingexecutive presencepresenting and storytellingtricky conversationsresilience and communicating purpose.

3 Weird Confidence Cheats

No matter how senior or expert we are, there’s something (or someone!) that makes us twitch. We curated a ‘collection’ of 50 quick confidence boosts. Here’s 3 of the weird ones to try. If you’d like leadership coaching 1-2-1 or communications coaching for meetings and presentations give us a call.

Remember, weird is good!

  1. Feel the pain – divert attention from your fear by putting tiny pieces of gravel in the front of your shoes. Scrunch your toes from time to time.
  2. Secret escapes – choose a secret to take into the room with you, how will you behave now? E.g. The secret is you are a spy or about to be made CEO.
  3. What if? – imagine you are talking to Man City FC owners in the bar after winning the League. How will you now stand, and talk and be? Go in with that purpose.

KineticFuture can coach you to be a world-class leader and communicator. Coaching 1-2-1 and in groups. Clients include Abbvie, Amgen, Gilead, GSK, Novartis, Mars, Pladis, WPP and Barclays.

We have six main areas of work: Time to think coachingexecutive presencepresenting and storytellingtricky conversationsresilience and communicating purpose.

What’s New On Your Reading List?

We launched the KineticFuture Book Club towards the end of last year – focused on communications and leadership, our specialist area of coaching. Thank you so much to all those who sent in their personal recommendations.

So far we have some really great books on our list, including the following (click to go to a short write up):

Would you mind sharing your latest personal favourites with us? It would be great to credit you or it can be anonymous if you prefer.

It could be a book that has helped you be successful at work, something that has amused you or kept you sane, or something that has some really interesting thinking or practical tips. The choice is yours.

Just email us the name of your book(s) and we’ll share it. We will also be sharing the reading list we give out on our different courses – Executive PresencePresentingResilience and Tricky Conversations.

Really look forward to your thoughts on this, thank you!