3 Weird Confidence Cheats

No matter how senior or expert we are, there’s something (or someone!) that makes us twitch. We curated a ‘collection’ of 50 quick confidence boosts. Here’s 3 of the weird ones to try. If you’d like leadership coaching 1-2-1 or communications coaching for meetings and presentations give us a call.

Remember, weird is good!

  1. Feel the pain – divert attention from your fear by putting tiny pieces of gravel in the front of your shoes. Scrunch your toes from time to time.
  2. Secret escapes – choose a secret to take into the room with you, how will you behave now? E.g. The secret is you are a spy or about to be made CEO.
  3. What if? – imagine you are talking to Man City FC owners in the bar after winning the League. How will you now stand, and talk and be? Go in with that purpose.

KineticFuture can coach you to be a world-class leader and communicator. Coaching 1-2-1 and in groups. Clients include Abbvie, Amgen, Gilead, GSK, Novartis, Mars, Pladis, WPP and Barclays.

We have six main areas of work: Time to think coachingexecutive presencepresenting and storytellingtricky conversationsresilience and communicating purpose.

I Think Too Much

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Do you lie awake at three in the morning with annoying work thoughts whizzing around your head?

Ironically, the solution could be making more time to think productively during the day. Call us if you’d like to be coached in a Thinking Environment. You’ll find it exciting, transformative and that it delivers results quickly.

Simple Top Tip For Today

I found an old notebook yesterday which listed my own big work dilemmas that were whizzing around my head at the time. I was amazed to realise that they didn’t bother me now. This was a direct result of being coached myself in a Thinking Environment. But here’s a simple tip to access your best thinking right now working with a trusted colleague.

-Sit down with someone you trust in private, in a place which communicates you are valuable. Set aside 20 minutes.

-Agree with your partner who is the ‘thinking partner’ and who is the ‘coach’.

-Agree that the ‘coach’ will never ever interrupt or suggest solutions and will listen intently with warmth, ease, encouragement, non-judgement, genuine curiosity and 100% confidentiality (no compromises!) This is the thinking environment.

  • Get comfortable
  • The ‘coach’ asks, “what would you like to think about and what are your thoughts?”
  • The thinker thinks, pauses, thinks, speaks or doesn’t speak. They are thinking. The ‘coach’ has the privilege of seeing the agility of the brain at work.
  • The ‘coach’ maintains the thinking environment.
  • When they’ve finished thinking, the ‘thinker’ writes down any notes and you appreciate each other.

See what happens! It could be the best thinking you have done in a very long time.

If you would like to be coached by us in a Thinking Environment we’d love to talk.

KineticFuture can coach you to be a world-class leader and communicator. Coaching 1-2-1 and in groups. Clients include Abbvie, Amgen, Gilead, GSK, Novartis, Mars, Pladis, WPP and Barclays. We have six main areas of work: Time to think coachingexecutive presencepresenting and storytellingtricky conversationsresilience and communicating purpose.

Do You Care Too Much?

You’re committed. You’re great at your job. You want to get ahead. Great!

But are you the one who always works the longest hours and has the most projects to manage with the least resources? Do you take responsibility or blame when it really should be shared?

You may be proud that you can make it all happen. But this pattern may be damaging your career.

It’s something that many people bring to our The Time To Think™ coaching sessions. Just having the space to think about what’s going on versus what you want can produce transformative change. Sometimes we’ll work on skills too. The choice is yours.

Use the arrival of spring to make some important changes. Contact us if you’d like to discuss your coaching.

Top Tips If You Care Too Much

Have a think about some of these questions.

  1. Do I feel I have to take on all this responsibility? Do I think this is true? What are my reasons for thinking so? Or is it fake news?
  2. Do I notice myself doing this a lot – at work and home? What assumptions am I making?
  3. How do successful people I admire manage their lives? What boundaries and roles do they define?
  4. Does my behaviour point to me being a doer rather than a strategic leader?
  5. What if I just didn’t do it this way? What would I gain? What would it free me up to do? What if there were no rules or expectations? What would I do?
  6. What is my purpose, what really makes my spirits fly?

KineticFuture can coach you to be a world-class leader and communicator. Coaching 1-2-1 and in groups. Clients include Abbvie, Amgen, Gilead, GSK, Novartis, Mars, Pladis, WPP and Barclays. We have six main areas of work: The Time To Think™ coaching, executive presence, presenting and storytelling, tricky conversations, resilience and communicating purpose.

The Secret Language of Leadership

This week’s book club recommendation comes from Simon Lancaster, one of the world’s top speechwriters. Simon’s book, ‘Winning Minds, Secrets from the Language of Leadership’ blends ancient rhetoric and neuroscience to create the definitive guide to the language of leadership.

This book is a wonderful resource! We use it as part of our KineticFuture Leadership Communications Coaching and Courses and always recommend Simon as a speech writer.

The opening paragraph talks about Boris Johnson’s opening speech at the London Olympics, when everyone came together to celebrate Great Britain and our achievements in putting on such an amazing event. The crowd and the whole country were buzzing.

Simon says:

“There is a secret language of leadership – a secret set of physical, verbal and vocal cues and signals that has existed for tens of thousands of years which still determines who makes it to the top in business and politics today.”

Some quotes from Amazon:

“Winning Minds lays bare with shocking clarity the simple techniques that great communicators use to manipulate our emotions. Give them a go and unleash your hidden leader!” – Peter Wanless, CEO, NSPCC

“Simon’s book unlocks the secret of how to be a world-class communicator and leader in a book that is as entertaining as it is packed with know-how.” – Darren Childs, UKTV Media

Find out more about Simon Lancaster’s specialist speech writing agency here: https://www.bespokespeeches.com/

Watch Simon in action on Youtube.

Buy Simon’s book on Amazon.

KineticFuture can coach you to be a world-class communicator and leader. Coaching 1-2-1 and in groups. Clients include Abbvie, Amgen, Gilead, GSK, Novartis, Mars, Pladis, WPP and Barclays. We have six main areas of work: Time to think coaching, executive presence, presenting and storytelling, tricky conversations, resilience and communicating purpose.

Contact us today to book a course or to find out more.

The Six Habits of Executive Presence

A wise colleague of mine described Executive Presence as:

“The water leaders swim in to get things done. It’s not optional. It’s essential for respect and trust”.

KineticFuture are experts in coaching the ‘how’ of EP one to one and in groups. Today I’m going to share with you The 6 Practical Habits of EP. This is a distillation of the KF coaching method for your presentation communication.

6 Habits of Executive Presence in Presentation Communication

  1. It’s all about the audience – flex to their needs and perspective you’re already halfway there.
  2. Integrity & expertise – how are you going to demonstrate this?
  3. Authentic passion & belief – your topic may not set your pulse racing but you’ll have to find something that motivates you
  4. Warm authority under fire – there is a pivot point between warmth and authority. You’re looking to find the right blend for the situation and culture.
  5. Listens to understand – the audience needs to feel this is a two-way conversation and you have to truly understand what they are thinking.
  6. Tailored value messages and strong storytelling – underpinning your confidence is knowing the value you bring to the other person and being able to articulate it. Strong storytelling will build engagement and memorability.

On our courses we’ll work with you on your physicality (vocal energy, body language etc.) blended with communications strategy plus you’ll develop your story ready to present. All focused on a real work situation. Your colleagues will also coach you and you’ll learn to self-coach too.

We have worked for 19 years with demanding companies including Abbvie, The ABI, Barclays, GSK, The Open University, Novartis, Mars, MSD, Reckitt Benckiser and Vertex.

Do call or email me if you’d like to know more. Everyone can develop their Executive Presence with dedication and good coaching. And the rewards are great for you and your teams.