Are You Living Someone Else’s Values?

Are you crystal clear on your own personal values? Or are you relying on words that resemble something you’ve been told to be? Can you name just two values which are at your core? And can you say, hand on heart, that you really live them? This knowledge gives you the resilience, integrity and purpose you need to lead.

Here, I’ve given you some quick tips on how to get going on this. And, if you’d like personal coaching to think about your values, vision or personal brand do drop me a line and we can talk about it. The Time To Think™ coaching approach I use is very different and highly energising.

Quick Tips To Start

Some of the best practical worksheets on values are in Brené Brown’s Dare To Lead book – pages 190-197. So do buy the book. In the meantime, here are a few of her suggestions.

  • Find a long list of values on-line (e.g. legacy, fairness, curiosity). These values will be the same for work or home if they are to be powerful. Sit down quietly. Take your time to really think about each one. Now whittle them down to two values. Others will be important but these two will be your ‘red line’ areas that you will not compromise on and drive the others. Be prepared to feel uncomfortable prioritising these over others.
  • Take each value – write down:
  1. What are three behaviours that support your value?
  2. What are three slippery behaviours that are outside your value?
  3. What’s an example of a time when you were fully living into this value?

Enjoy!

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KineticFuture Book Club – You Don’t Want to Hear This

Welcome back to the KineticFuture Book Club!

This is a fantastic book that I will be recommending again and again on our new Executive Presence group course and in my one to one coaching. For me, its key message is be open and be yourself and you will boost your executive presence.

It comes from vulnerability researcher, Brené Brown and it’s called ‘Daring Greatly’.  I read it cover to cover without stopping. And then started reading it again. Only stopped by accidently smashing my iPad!

This book could have been written about me and for me. Judging by the millions of people that follow Brené on Ted, many men and women feel the same way.

In essence, it’s about daring to be yourself, not hiding and using strategies to help you stay courageous under fire. It’s about being more successful and happier. The way she tells the story is moving and hilarious. She struggles on the journey too. Her research work is exemplary. There’s no BS here. This is a book for men, women, the relentlessly ambitious and those already happy with their life today.

Buy Daring Greatly by Brené Brown on Amazon.

On our Executive Presence course you’ll learn to balance warmth and authority at work, how to be open and show vulnerability yet have people know you mean business. And how to do all this your own way, in your own style with your own values. It’s a tightrope worth walking. Contact us on +44 (0)1628 624312 to find out more.

Do let us know your favourite books so that we can add them to the KineticFuture book club reading list.

By the way, you can easily find all our book club recommendations by just searching for ‘book club’ in our tips.

Brene Brown: Vulnerability

Brené Brown studies human connection – our ability to empathize, belong, love. In a poignant, funny talk, she shares a deep insight from her research, one that sent her on a personal quest to know herself as well as to understand humanity. A talk to share.