Are some of your team consistently negative? It’s great to disagree with each other and healthy to have different points of views. I’m talking about the kind of behaviours that kill the energy in the team.
I’ve seen this from both points of view in my Time To Think™ coaching. From the people who are perceived to be negative (often wrongly) and from the leaders trying to engage and re-inspire a team. If this is something you’d like to tackle, do get in touch. There’s a great deal you can do to turn this around working 1-2-1 or we can create a bespoke group course.
7 TOP TIPS
- Be patient
- Show empathy and respect for the person and their point of view
- Remember you’re all ‘One Tribe’ – assume good intent and value
- Consider that they may not be negative, you are just not listening or you simply have a clash of communication styles
- Gently help them reframe and explore a different point of view
- Talk about impact of their behaviour on others – the phrase ‘when you do x, it can be perceived as…’ reduces defensiveness
- Give attention and reward the positive behaviours you want to see more of
KineticFuture can coach you to be a world-class communicator and leader. Coaching 1-2-1 and in groups. Clients include Abbvie, Amgen, Gilead, GSK, Novartis, Mars, Pladis, WPP and Barclays. We have six main areas of work: Time to Think™ coaching, executive presence, presenting and storytelling, tricky conversations, resilience and communicating purpose.
Contact us today to book a course or to find out more.
I’m finally back from Canada and buzzing with the huge success of seeing grizzly bears and orcas. What an amazing experience!
It’s great to go away but also good to get back to work with fresh vigour. Today we’re formally and proudly launching our new brand identity, proposition and services. It’s all in response to the challenges you told us were most pressing right now.
We’re now 100% focussed on our area of deepest expertise – coaching leaders to be highly skilful communicators.
Our team’s purpose is to be ‘Rocket Fuel For Your Talent’.
Among many things, you told us:
- Confidence is still a big issue. You want to flex your communications style for impact
- You’re not sure how to have executive presence and authority in today’s global business world. Executive presence supersedes gravitas
- Women dislike the word power and want new, authentic ways to get important work done
- You want to make work fun, enjoyable and encourage innovation.
Our response to this new world order is:
- Personalised coaching is what you want – in groups or 1-2-1
- Use solid research of what works in real life today
- Give you tools to think independently and coach others
- Everything starts with a communications strategy, or you’re dead
- Blend coaching specialists from communications, theatre, psychology, neuroscience, storytelling and industry sectors
Have a look at our new proposition, the tips function and case studies.
Are we missing anything? We love to keep learning and developing and know you do too.
Drop us an email or give us a ring if you want to talk about coaching which adds Rocket Fuel For Your Talent (or if you’d like to know more about seeing bears and orcas in Canada!)
Your eyes really are the gateway to your soul. And it’s one of the first things to go when we’re under pressure. Here’s a top tip that will give you the warm authority leaders need even when the going gets tough. Click here to watch.
I hope it’s useful. Let us know how you get on. If you’d like us to coach you or your team to increase your presence, gravitas or warm authority do give us a ring. It would be a pleasure to work with you on this.
Have you tried the ‘empty chair technique’? It’s a great way to find a new perspective and new ways to solve a problem. Particularly if you’ve tried other ideas and the other person is still driving you bonkers.
Let’s say you have a customer or a client who is being uncooperative or even rude to you or your team. Alternatively, you might need to sell your 2018 programme and budget to your boss but worry about their objections.
The idea behind the ‘empty chair’ technique, which originates from Fritz Perls of the Gestalt school, is that physically altering your point of view and seeing things from a different angle can bring useful insights. This insight helps you change your behaviour to achieve a better outcome.
I really enjoy using it in my one to one coaching. You can also use it with a colleague taking notes or even on your own.
- Set up two empty chairs
- Put yourself in one of the chairs and imagine that the empty chair is occupied by the other person in the relationship.
- The question is “As x (yourself or the other person), how do you feel about x?
- You describe what you think and feel about the imaginary person in the other chair and or the situation.
- You then change chairs and think about yourself ‘being’ the other person, this time looking at an imagined version of yourself. Ask the same question.
What’s so interesting is that often we have a very good understanding of the other person but the exercises surface knowledge we’ve often ignored. It also releases a great deal of pent up emotion about a relationship which allows you to think more clearly and find new ways of handling the situation.
Please do contact us if you or a colleague would be interested in one to one business coaching. We can talk through what you are looking for and how we work with our clients. Email me at: Karen@kineticfuture.com.
Image of Euro Hockey player Maddie Hinch sourced from Flickr & cropped for use.
Here’s the second in our ‘managing your tell’ vlog series. Very relevant as we are all in planning negotiations at this time of year. With solutions to one of the most common ‘tells’ we coach. Click here to watch.
Let us know how you get on.
To receive high quality coaching on HOW to develop your own executive presence and gravitas for your own situation do give us a ring. We develop practical programmes to suit you.
Email email@example.com or call us on +44 (0) 1628 621312.
Watch part 1 of this vlog series here.