Do You Care Too Much?

You’re committed. You’re great at your job. You want to get ahead. Great!

But are you the one who always works the longest hours and has the most projects to manage with the least resources? Do you take responsibility or blame when it really should be shared?

You may be proud that you can make it all happen. But this pattern may be damaging your career.

It’s something that many people bring to our Thinking Partnership Coaching Sessions. Just having the space to think about what’s going on versus what you want can produce transformative change. Sometimes we’ll work on skills too. The choice is yours.

Use the arrival of spring to make some important changes. Contact us if you’d like to discuss your coaching.

Top Tips If You Care Too Much

Have a think about some of these questions.

  1. Do I feel I have to take on all this responsibility? Do I think this is true? What are my reasons for thinking so? Or is it fake news?
  2. Do I notice myself doing this a lot – at work and home? What assumptions am I making?
  3. How do successful people I admire manage their lives? What boundaries and roles do they define?
  4. Does my behaviour point to me being a doer rather than a strategic leader?
  5. What if I just didn’t do it this way? What would I gain? What would it free me up to do? What if there were no rules or expectations? What would I do?
  6. What is my purpose, what really makes my spirits fly?

KineticFuture can coach you to be a world-class leader and communicator. Coaching 1-2-1 and in groups. Clients include Abbvie, Amgen, Gilead, GSK, Novartis, Mars, Pladis, WPP and Barclays. We have six main areas of work: Thinking partnership coaching, executive presence, presenting and storytelling, tricky conversations, resilience and communicating purpose.

Empathy Key to Co-Creation

The three types of empathy are a hot topic in our age of co-creation. If your leaders, MSLs, marketeers or technical teams would like coaching in this area, do call us. It’s a fascinating subject.

Empathy researchers define empathy as:

‘The ability to sense others’ emotions coupled with the ability to imagine what someone else might be thinking or feeling’.

There is real depth in this area which can help you hone or even manage your empathy. You may be using too little or too much.

For certain, developing your E-awareness can help you with: matrix working, co-creation with the NHS or other groups, managing upwards or coping better with upsetting work situations.

Top Tip for Empathy

Listen to Understand

  • Genuinely be interested, want to understand their views.
  • Don’t ever interrupt the other person or just be waiting until you can dive in with your own point. Let them finish fully.
  • Show it by keeping your eyes on their eyes, using open and forward body language and exude ease not rush or competition.

KineticFuture specialises in leadership and communications coaching. Karen Moyse has been a coach for 8 years and a skills trainer for 20. She recently graduated as a TIME TO THINK coach specialising in the thinking environment. KineticFuture courses include Executive Presence, Presentations and Thinking Partnership coaching for individuals and teams.

Do contact us if you’d like to talk about your own goals right now on karen@kineticfuture.com

Calling All Library Lovers

I have a spring in my step, it must be the milder weather, plus the fact that I recently graduated as a Time to Think Coach after a year of hard slog, hooray!

I qualified as a business coach eight years ago, but this has transformed the results I achieve. It was pioneered by Nancy Kline (Founder & President of The Time to Think Organisation), whom I was lucky enough to meet at my graduation day (cheesy photo below!) Nancy is also the author of this week’s book club recommendation, ‘More Time to Think’.

Left to right: Ruth McCarthy (my Time to Think coach), me, Nancy Kline (Founder & President of The Time to Think Organisation)

Thinking Partnership coaching will be relevant to team members you want to coach 1-2-1, perhaps thinking about a new role, business relationship or their executive presence. And of course, we incorporate elements of this type of coaching into all our group communications courses.

Find out more about ‘Thinking Partnership’ coaching here.

Drop us an email if you’d like a quick chat about how I can help you with your own challenges.

More Time to Think by Nancy Kline

Amazon says:

“The quality of everything we do depends on the quality of the thinking we do first. The leaders, professionals, parents and teachers who understand this are at the top of their fields and inspire some of the finest independent thinking in their environments.

In More Time to Think, Nancy Kline shares ten effective ways to help people think for themselves with rigour, imagination, courage and grace. From learning that the mind works best in the presence of a question (so never be afraid to risk being wrong) and that a key factor in the quality of a person’s thinking is how they are treated by the people with them while they are thinking, to the importance of appreciation and of facing what you have been denying, Nancy Kline shows how to create a successful Thinking Environment, whether for two people or a larger group.”

Buy Nancy’s book ‘More Time to Think’ on Amazon.

We like to be topical here at KineticFuture. So, did you know February is library lovers’ month?

Here are some of our favourite quotes on libraries:

“If you have a garden and a library, you have everything” – Marcus Tullius Cicero

“If you want to get laid, go to college. If you want an education, go to the library” – Frank Zappa

“A library is the delivery room for the birth of ideas, a place where history comes to life” – Norman Cousins

“I have always imagined that paradise will be a kind of library” – Jorge Luis Borges

KineticFuture specialises in coaching leaders to be highly skilful communicators. Coaching 1-2-1 and in groups. Clients include Abbvie, Amgen, Gilead, GSK, Novartis, Mars, Pladis, WPP and Barclays. We have six main areas of work: – Thinking partnership coachingexecutive presencepresenting and storytelling, tricky conversations, resilience and communicating purpose. Contact us to find out more.

KineticFuture Book Club – Taming Tigers

Hang on to those New Year’s resolutions with today’s book club recommendation – ‘Taming Tigers. Do things you never thought you could’ by Jim Lawless. Like join an amateur dramatic group (me!), go for that new job role, or overcome a fear?

Kinetic Future’s coaching and group courses will also give you the boost you need to get there – by increasing confidence, resilience, executive presence or presenting skills.

Taming Tigers was recommended to the KineticFuture book club by Colin Boylan, Director at Fresh Perspectives Market Research, thanks Colin!

Colin says:

“Excellent story and fantastic advice. Really helped drive me forward when I was setting up the business.”

Amazon says:

Everybody has a Tiger. It is the thing that snarls at us when we think about making a change in our lives and stops us developing and achieving our potential. In Taming Tigers Jim Lawless shares his proven and inspirational training programme to help you achieve your dreams by taming the Tigers in your life.
Now for the first time, you can learn how to use these highly practical rules to overcome your fears and do things you never thought you could – in both your professional and private life.

Buy ‘Taming Tigers’ on Amazon.

Drop us an email or give us a ring on +44 (0) 1628 624312 if you want to talk about coaching which adds Rocket Fuel For Your Talent (and helps you tame those tigers).

The KineticFuture Book Club is focussed on communications and leadership, our specialist area of coaching. To find more recommendations just search for ‘book club’ in our tips.

Ditch Your Imposter Syndrome

IMAGE OF RICHARD MADDEN FROM THE BODYGUARD SOURCED FROM GAGE SKIDMORE AT WIKIMEDIA COMMONS & CROPPED FOR USE.

Happy New Year to you. Today I’m thinking about imposter syndrome – when you’re afraid you’re going to be found out. AAAh! Even Richard Madden, The Bodyguard, winning his Golden Globe this week confessed he’s felt like this all his career. Many business leaders I coach tell me they feel just the same.

So why not ditch this stinking thinking for 2019?

Hot news is… I qualified as a Time To Think business coach yesterday!

I love this powerful approach which achieves extraordinary results fast. I can help you discover a whole new way of thinking about business and yourself. And, of course, this includes ditching that imposter syndrome.

Call me and we’ll tackle it together (find out more here).

Imposter Syndrome Top Tip

Ask yourself:

“What could you assume instead (about yourself) in this situation that would be credible, liberating and genuinely true to you?”

For example, my own new assumption would be that:

“I’ve deep expertise in my field and even if I operated at just 20% of my ability, it would make a huge impact”.

Embarrassing to say out loud but helpful when I need to be brave! You’ll have your own.

Have a wonderful weekend. And call me if you’d like to know more about my Thinking Partnership Coaching – one to one or in groups.