3 Weird Confidence Cheats

No matter how senior or expert we are, there’s something (or someone!) that makes us twitch. We curated a ‘collection’ of 50 quick confidence boosts. Here’s 3 of the weird ones to try. If you’d like leadership coaching 1-2-1 or communications coaching for meetings and presentations give us a call.

Remember, weird is good!

  1. Feel the pain – divert attention from your fear by putting tiny pieces of gravel in the front of your shoes. Scrunch your toes from time to time.
  2. Secret escapes – choose a secret to take into the room with you, how will you behave now? E.g. The secret is you are a spy or about to be made CEO.
  3. What if? – imagine you are talking to Man City FC owners in the bar after winning the League. How will you now stand, and talk and be? Go in with that purpose.

KineticFuture can coach you to be a world-class leader and communicator. Coaching 1-2-1 and in groups. Clients include Abbvie, Amgen, Gilead, GSK, Novartis, Mars, Pladis, WPP and Barclays.

We have six main areas of work: Thinking partnership coachingexecutive presencepresenting and storytellingtricky conversationsresilience and communicating purpose.

Do Fear Messages Really Work?

We were debating this question at a presentation workshop I ran last week. It’s an important issue whether you are Extinction Rebellion or you are talking about a tough issue with your team or customers. The answer is surprising.

The answer is yes and no.

Fear works well to gain attention. The Extinction Rebellion rallies really make me sit up. They create great stories to tell.

But if you want people to act you need to move sharply into action-oriented messages, or they will switch off. If we are bombarded with just negativity, it all becomes too difficult and too overwhelming, so we talk a lot, but we do nothing.

It’s also about setting out specific and easy first steps. First steps so we can see the reward. So, to stick with the environmental theme – the articles you see about ‘5 Things You Can Do Today’ are positive and helpful. (But they need to be told with more oomph!)

The interesting kicker on all this is that if what you are suggesting does not resonate with someone’s values, social norms or things that are important to them it won’t work. The coal industry in Australia has tried positive messaging but this has been very much received as spin soundbites. Gosh. Perhaps that means we do see through fake news? Now there’s a thought.

If you would like to tell your story to encourage awareness and to change behaviour or to build your confidence and executive presence for meetings, presentations or for difficult conversations, do contact us. We will help you build a powerful communications strategy and an engaging way of telling the story for the occasion as well as working with you on your vocal energy and physical presence.

When You’re Bland You Blend

You may have all the relevant skills and experience but unless you can communicate in a compelling way you won’t get far. ‘When you’re bland you blend’ is one of the phrases from this week’s book club recommendation by Paul McGee, keynote speaker and performance coach – How to Speak so People Really Listen.

This book is informal and accessible, full of useful tips and written in a warm, amusing way. We really like it and think you will too.

Of course, if you’d rather learn these skills on our group or 1-2-1 courses do get in touch. We will help you stand out from the crowd.

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We Can All Talk. The Challenge? 
Getting People To Listen.

Reviews on the back cover :

′This book is down–to–earth, gritty and oozes experience. I′ve been speaking for over twenty years trust me, I′ve learnt from this book. Paul McGee is clearly a skilled helper.′
Kriss Akabusi MBE

′I have nearly a hundred books on public speaking and this is a refreshingly different take on all of them. You′ll read it in hours but the messages will stay with you for years. It′s clever, insightful and packed with takeaway tips.′
Jeremy Nicholas, Writer and Broadcaster

Buy Paul’s book on Amazon.

KineticFuture can coach you to be a world-class communicator and leader. Coaching 1-2-1 and in groups. Clients include Abbvie, Amgen, Gilead, GSK, Novartis, Mars, Pladis, WPP and Barclays. We have six main areas of work: Thinking partnership coachingexecutive presencepresenting and storytellingtricky conversationsresilience and communicating purpose.

Contact us today to book a course or to find out more.

The Secret Language of Leadership

This week’s book club recommendation comes from Simon Lancaster, one of the world’s top speechwriters. Simon’s book, ‘Winning Minds, Secrets from the Language of Leadership’ blends ancient rhetoric and neuroscience to create the definitive guide to the language of leadership.

This book is a wonderful resource! We use it as part of our KineticFuture Leadership Communications Coaching and Courses and always recommend Simon as a speech writer.

The opening paragraph talks about Boris Johnson’s opening speech at the London Olympics, when everyone came together to celebrate Great Britain and our achievements in putting on such an amazing event. The crowd and the whole country were buzzing.

Simon says:

“There is a secret language of leadership – a secret set of physical, verbal and vocal cues and signals that has existed for tens of thousands of years which still determines who makes it to the top in business and politics today.”

Some quotes from Amazon:

“Winning Minds lays bare with shocking clarity the simple techniques that great communicators use to manipulate our emotions. Give them a go and unleash your hidden leader!” – Peter Wanless, CEO, NSPCC

“Simon’s book unlocks the secret of how to be a world-class communicator and leader in a book that is as entertaining as it is packed with know-how.” – Darren Childs, UKTV Media

Find out more about Simon Lancaster’s specialist speech writing agency here: https://www.bespokespeeches.com/

Watch Simon in action on Youtube.

Buy Simon’s book on Amazon.

KineticFuture can coach you to be a world-class communicator and leader. Coaching 1-2-1 and in groups. Clients include Abbvie, Amgen, Gilead, GSK, Novartis, Mars, Pladis, WPP and Barclays. We have six main areas of work: Thinking partnership coaching, executive presence, presenting and storytelling, tricky conversations, resilience and communicating purpose.

Contact us today to book a course or to find out more.

The Six Habits of Executive Presence

A wise colleague of mine described Executive Presence as:

“The water leaders swim in to get things done. It’s not optional. It’s essential for respect and trust”.

KineticFuture are experts in coaching the ‘how’ of EP one to one and in groups. Today I’m going to share with you The 6 Practical Habits of EP. This is a distillation of the KF coaching method for your presentation communication.

6 Habits of Executive Presence in Presentation Communication

  1. It’s all about the audience – flex to their needs and perspective you’re already halfway there.
  2. Integrity & expertise – how are you going to demonstrate this?
  3. Authentic passion & belief – your topic may not set your pulse racing but you’ll have to find something that motivates you
  4. Warm authority under fire – there is a pivot point between warmth and authority. You’re looking to find the right blend for the situation and culture.
  5. Listens to understand – the audience needs to feel this is a two-way conversation and you have to truly understand what they are thinking.
  6. Tailored value messages and strong storytelling – underpinning your confidence is knowing the value you bring to the other person and being able to articulate it. Strong storytelling will build engagement and memorability.

On our courses we’ll work with you on your physicality (vocal energy, body language etc.) blended with communications strategy plus you’ll develop your story ready to present. All focused on a real work situation. Your colleagues will also coach you and you’ll learn to self-coach too.

We have worked for 19 years with demanding companies including Abbvie, The ABI, Barclays, GSK, The Open University, Novartis, Mars, MSD, Reckitt Benckiser and Vertex.

Do call or email me if you’d like to know more. Everyone can develop their Executive Presence with dedication and good coaching. And the rewards are great for you and your teams.