Words That Weaken You

There are words that sneak into your language and undermine your leadership and executive presence. You don’t need them, and you can get rid of them fast! 

They signal to your boss, your clients or your colleagues that you are not confident, like little negative beacons. On our executive presence and presentation courses, our clients identify them, ban them from the workshop and set forfeits for each other if they sneak back in. You can play this game with yourself or a friend. Have a go. It’ll drive you nuts!  

So, find out more about our executive presence and presentation courses and find below the most common words that weaken you.

Here are our top six undermining filler words. So small yet so significant. All you need to do is to catch yourself and stop saying them – your authority and presence will rise.  

Maybe

Perhaps

Sort of

Kind of

I’ll try

Sorry

(stop apologising for being in the room!)

KineticFuture can coach you to be a world-class leader and communicator. Coaching 1-2-1 and in groups. Clients include Abbvie, Amgen, Gilead, GSK, Novartis, Mars, Pladis, WPP and Barclays.

We have six main areas of work: Time to think coachingexecutive presencepresenting and storytellingtricky conversationsresilience and communicating purpose.

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Where’s Your Courage and Conviction?

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Greta Thunberg, 16, environmental activist has had a major impact on the debate and on me.

I kicked off my presentation course last week by showing this video of Greta below. She proves you don’t have to be an expert, have titles or be a slick presenter to have a tremendous impact and gravitas.

What you need to find is authentic conviction and the courage to be yourself. My only request of the people in the presentation workshop was that they bring themselves to our work that day. The answer was a resounding yes. And they did. Brilliantly.

If you would like coaching to find and use your authentic conviction and courage for your meetings and presentations, please do email me on karen@kineticfuture.com. It will transform your ability to communicate and lead. Find out more about our courses here.

3 Weird Confidence Cheats

No matter how senior or expert we are, there’s something (or someone!) that makes us twitch. We curated a ‘collection’ of 50 quick confidence boosts. Here’s 3 of the weird ones to try. If you’d like leadership coaching 1-2-1 or communications coaching for meetings and presentations give us a call.

Remember, weird is good!

  1. Feel the pain – divert attention from your fear by putting tiny pieces of gravel in the front of your shoes. Scrunch your toes from time to time.
  2. Secret escapes – choose a secret to take into the room with you, how will you behave now? E.g. The secret is you are a spy or about to be made CEO.
  3. What if? – imagine you are talking to Man City FC owners in the bar after winning the League. How will you now stand, and talk and be? Go in with that purpose.

KineticFuture can coach you to be a world-class leader and communicator. Coaching 1-2-1 and in groups. Clients include Abbvie, Amgen, Gilead, GSK, Novartis, Mars, Pladis, WPP and Barclays.

We have six main areas of work: Time to think coachingexecutive presencepresenting and storytellingtricky conversationsresilience and communicating purpose.

Do Fear Messages Really Work?

We were debating this question at a presentation workshop I ran last week. It’s an important issue whether you are Extinction Rebellion or you are talking about a tough issue with your team or customers. The answer is surprising.

The answer is yes and no.

Fear works well to gain attention. The Extinction Rebellion rallies really make me sit up. They create great stories to tell.

But if you want people to act you need to move sharply into action-oriented messages, or they will switch off. If we are bombarded with just negativity, it all becomes too difficult and too overwhelming, so we talk a lot, but we do nothing.

It’s also about setting out specific and easy first steps. First steps so we can see the reward. So, to stick with the environmental theme – the articles you see about ‘5 Things You Can Do Today’ are positive and helpful. (But they need to be told with more oomph!)

The interesting kicker on all this is that if what you are suggesting does not resonate with someone’s values, social norms or things that are important to them it won’t work. The coal industry in Australia has tried positive messaging but this has been very much received as spin soundbites. Gosh. Perhaps that means we do see through fake news? Now there’s a thought.

If you would like to tell your story to encourage awareness and to change behaviour or to build your confidence and executive presence for meetings, presentations or for difficult conversations, do contact us. We will help you build a powerful communications strategy and an engaging way of telling the story for the occasion as well as working with you on your vocal energy and physical presence.

What’s New On Your Reading List?

We launched the KineticFuture Book Club towards the end of last year – focused on communications and leadership, our specialist area of coaching. Thank you so much to all those who sent in their personal recommendations.

So far we have some really great books on our list, including the following (click to go to a short write up):

Would you mind sharing your latest personal favourites with us? It would be great to credit you or it can be anonymous if you prefer.

It could be a book that has helped you be successful at work, something that has amused you or kept you sane, or something that has some really interesting thinking or practical tips. The choice is yours.

Just email us the name of your book(s) and we’ll share it. We will also be sharing the reading list we give out on our different courses – Executive PresencePresentingResilience and Tricky Conversations.

Really look forward to your thoughts on this, thank you!