Sometimes, it is realistic to think that the big meeting or conversation is going to be a bit of a ‘mare’ and it would be naive not to prepare. However, it always helps to go in with an open mind and a dose of optimism, whatever your past experience.
Often our fearful thinking is just plain wrong or way out of proportion. We’re making all sorts of assumptions without any evidence at all. To break the cycle and get into a positive, useful place, ask yourself these 5 ‘self coaching’ questions:
- What evidence do I have for this belief?
- What else could be happening?
- How could I see the situation differently? Are there opportunities or an upside?
- If that is the case, on a scale of 1-10 how worried should I be? But on a scale of 1-10 how am I currently reacting? (Is your reaction out of proportion?)
- What’s the very worst that can happen? How likely is that? What is more likely?
Have a go and see what happens.
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